I need advice ! My ex boyfriend which is father of my unborn baby wants to fight for custody , but he suggested abortion just like his mom did, he smokes, he drinks , he recently got pulled over and got his car taken away, he lost his job and took him months to get another one, but says the child won't be any better with me cause I still haven't finished high school , any advice? I don't want him to be on the birth certificate ):
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@ytadaneli94 can i message you? I'm going through the same thing with my sons dad and i have some more information.
@ytadaneli94 he can get charged for kidnapping if he takes your baby. All you have to do is call the cops on him tell them he's not on the babys birth certificate and give them information and they'll be hot on his ass. But the key is don't tell him you'll do any of this. It'll just make him work harder at attempting to keep your baby from you. So don't worry if he isn't on the birth certificate he has no rights and give your baby YOUR last name.
@ytadaneli94, girl, you need to get a restraining order asap. Once that baby is born, you are already the legal guardian of your child and he can get in serious trouble for taking your child away! Talk to your family and get one.
@ytadaneli94 I'm glad I don't know who the father is on my end lol I might have a better idea when I look at her, but even then I'm not gonna try to reach out to no man. I don't want this happening to me. Lol I only want it to be me and her until I find the right man who will accept her and I as a family. I'm definitely putting my last name on the certificate. I do have a current bf who is in jail. And who loves is both. But he's gone for a very long time. So I know its just going to be just me and her anyways.💖
@ytadaneli94 oKay that's great! For the restraining order and/or custody, make sure you tell the judge you have witnesses and that you also want them to speak on your behalf. You should be completely fine hun. And what the other girl said, if you breastfeed, that's for sure on your favor. Seems like everything will be fine. First thing is first though, so he can't contact you or bother you or see you....get that restraining order!!😊
@juliaschade41, oh I know ! Luckily I was always with someone when he would call & they would hear everything, he told me his parents were the ones that suggested for him to fight for custody , but then again his parents also suggested for me to have an abortion ... my friends and family are well aware of this
@juliaschade41, thank you so much , I appreciate it !!
@ytadaneli94 cuz if you have to go to court and you have a restraining order on him, that will definitely look bad on his favor, cuz the law has already sided with you. If you don't and you go to court, the judge might even ask why you haven't taken that necessary step. You need to show that you're absolutely serious about how you feel about this situation and that you want nothing to do with him, and with your child either. He sounds dangerous and toxic and needs to be lawfully removed. Get a restraining order, keep all the proof cuz you will need that to get a restraining order, do NOT put his last name on the baby's birth certificate, and you should be fine. It all should be in your favor if you take the necessary steps to enforce that. Good luck to you and always put you and your baby's interests first.💖💖💖💖
@juliaschade41, I didn't really think about that till now ...
Yeah , I have messages of him telling me he's not going to stop until he ruins my life or just threats. I save them for the same reason that someday I might need them, his friends ( which know me ) message me saying he's talking bad about my baby & they go along too, these types of situations are so complicated. I know the child will be better with me regardless if I finished high school yet or not , he said hes giving me three months after the birth to get a job and an apartment or he's taking the child with or without court agreement. @caityyy_lynnn, @noahs.mommy, @juliaschade41@lexieelovee0329,
Currently going through the same thing but I'm married to the guy, we are separated and I'm filling out all the paperwork for the divorce. He's in the army and wants 50/50 but has no means to take care of her what so ever. He won't be on the birth certificate, she won't have his last name, nothing. You don't have to do anything if you don't want too. My little sister isn't finished with high school and has legal custody of my nephew, you still being in high school won't matter. If you and your family can provide a better life for your child, the courts will be on your side and if you breastfeed, courts won't take the baby away for that reason. If you have proof of everything you said, KEEP IT. Just in case you go to court and they ask for the proof, you have it.
@ytadaneli94 you don't have to put him on the birth certificate and if he isn't then he has no rights to your baby. He can't do anything and if he does try he can get in a lot of trouble for it. I know for where i live, the father actually has to be present in order for him to be on the birth certificate or they won't allow him to be. You can also tell all of your nurses that you don't want him there so that he can't try and be on the certificate.
Courts usually favor the woman. And when you give birth cuz he's not your husband, I would definitely put your last name on the baby's certificate. You guys aren't married, so legally you and the baby have no obligation to him. He's only acting like a sperm donor anyways. Don't worry hun. You have all the rights as the mother.💖💖💖
@noahs.mommy, yes that would be very helpful !!