I was married for 7 years before I found out my husband had been having an affair, it's not easy, and I know the heart and the head don't always agree... especially with kids in the mix... but you have to decide where to draw the line in the sand, what is acceptable, what is not... for me, I was raising 2 step daughters, (their mom walked out on them years before this) and I could not let them think that this is how a woman should be treated... they needed to see me stand up for myself and my marriage, I did not want to divorce him... but I would not allow him to disrespect me like that... so I offered to go to counseling with him, and to work on our marriage, but he had to decide he was done with other women... he decided he was unable to be faithful... and as hard as that was I had to let him walk! He's not the example I want my kids to follow... after our divorce, I met and married an amazing man... I know he would never disrespect me like that, and values our relationship! They are out there! I literally made a list, and before I would go on a date with someone, they had to meet my criteria... many 'boys' laughed at my list... but shortly after meeting my husband, he introduced me to his family... after dessert we were talking and I told them about my list... his mom asked to see the list, I handed it to her, she read it carefully, handed it to his father, and said dear, had I not known differently, I'd say you wrote that list after you met my son! So let me tell you it's possible... Don't settle for less than you deserve! 😉 we are now very happy and expecting our second child together, he is a wonderful role model for my step-kids from my previous marriage, they love him, and he loves them as if they were his own!

Leave

Unfortunately you have two choices, accept it or move on. I don't mean to be crude but he's shown you the type of man he is, so now you have to decide if you want that type. I understand you love him, but love doesn't always mean happiness. When a man doesn't want to commit he doesn't :( and I feel for your heart bc I've been there a time or two.

Sorry to be so blunt but..... Leave him now, I was once in that situation. Man it hurt so bad I was so depressed but here I am going on 3 years married to the love of my life. I'm not saying it's easy but you gotta do what's best for you & that child. You ain't shit to your child if you are miserable & don't think that since it's a child involved you must deal with it, you don't. I'm sorry you are going through this, be strong.

My heart is with you I know what you're feeling do what your heart wants because in the end the decision from someone on the outside looking in will always be get out and go fast