okay I need y'alls opinion. If a mother decides to get the epidural does that make her seem weak or something?? My bd…

Not weak at all. I've had 2 epidural and naturals.

I don't think it's weak at all. We all have different pain tolerances, I had the same exact fears as you. I got my epidural even though I wasn't it pain because I was scared of feeling the pain of my baby coming out. You do what you feel is best for you, mama. Don't let any ignorant/uneducated person make you think otherwise . 💪🏼

@rebeccca3009 good I hope not, I've wanted to do it with my last but I backed out but even when they put the epidural I felt the contractions still..

@aivahsmommy2016 thank you. she didn't understand since she didn't have anything when she had her kids

The way I lol at it is we are strong women for carrying and bearing these precious gifts into the world and that makes us strong. Epidural or not we are all strong women and mothers.

@rebeccca3009 I agree, I hated people telling me what to do so I was like fuck it you're not the one in pain I am

@adrianasmtz1994, I get it. My mom and aunts are always preaching "we didn't have that stuff when we had you guys." Okay well things are different now, and if given the opportunity to ease my pain during labor I'll do it. They're just old and don't get it lol

@aivahsmommy2016 lol yeah maybe that's why. but I think she did have it as an option she just refused it

I had the epidural the first time around, and didn't have time for one the second. I've never understood why people think it's weak. Is it weak to have anesthesia when you need a knee or hip replacement? Or when you're going in for open heart surgery? Why shouldn't you just beast through those? Seriously, if the option is there, there's no reason to hate on someone for using it.

That being said, the recovery time after an epidural is much slower, so I think I preferred the natural method in the end, despite how awful it felt. 😂

I went all natural, and while I didn't think it hurt that bad. You can be damn sure if it hurts the next time, I will be getting the epidural lol

@rhealize I was induced with my 1st so I had the epidural I cried though of the pain I was in after I had her I couldn't sit or anything id cry, my 2nd I didn't even know I was dilated to 7cm that day I just went in for a check up lol I just took the epidural for being scared of the pain lol and my 3rd well I was induced I handled the pain a lot better and longer but I ended up getting it they were getting a shit load stronger, and well like I say at least i tried to go through without it

@sawyersmom lol well good luck the next time, I'm done for now lol

Lol I'm not having another one for awhile. But I would have taken an epidural with the first, but I labored too quickly. I was only at the hospital an hour

Hey, it doesn't make you any worse of a mother if you go with the epidural. And it sure doesn't make you a better one going without. 😂 As long as baby got here safe, right?

@sawyersmom lol okay and wow that was very fast😮

@rhealize very true ☺. my 3rd one though scared me because right when I got it and I laid back her heartbeat dropped so they put oxygen on me and turned me on my side

Yeah and very scary because he was four weeks early

@sawyersmom oh my God 😮!

I had an epi with my son and with my daughter they boosted my petocen and it became so unbareable with my contractions I had no breaks inbetween they where sky high I was screaming and crying thought I was turning into the excorsist they said I couldn't have the epi I went through 8hrs of horror , some women can't take the pain it feels like ur pelvic is breaking in half , it does not make you a bad parent at all only you know what is best for you at that moment

@julisamarieg92 oh my God 😨 I'm sorry you had to go through that wow. thank you though, I always got crap from her and some of my family but I didn't care it just bothers me that they look down on it