I don't know how to start my explanation of what's bothering me. So if this comes across as scattered I'm sorry. Ok here it goes:
My bf and I have been trying to conceive for close two years now. I have repeatedly asked my mother if anyone in the family has ever had fertility difficulty. All I was ever told was nope your the only one. Well the other day a very close family friend told me my mother lost almost 10 pregancies before she had me. (The oldest) I feel so betrayed by her. I would love to talk to her about this but I know she will deny everything and then make my father and family friend life a living hell for telling me.
And to add insult to injury I called her to tell her the results of the favor I did for my grandparents and she proceeded to tell me that both me and my sister are disappointments. And she wished she had not had kids. Gee thanks mom.
What has me tail spinning is my mother and I have always had a very loving relationship. This is so out of character for her. There have been many other things she has said of recent that has been hurtful untrue and out of character. I don't know what to do. It is killing our relationship. And now I'm wondering if we even had the relationship I thought we did.
Long story short I feel alone and hurting. Wanting the mother I thought I had back.
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@rainbow417 on the ttc I'm not sure it will happen. I went to see a fertility specialist a month ago and it was not good news. But I am going to get a second opinion in time. He told me I can not conceive but he made this decision after speaking with me for 5 min and without any test results.
@barbiebonbon people tend to take their anger out on the ones they love the most..why I will never understand. I hope she can see a doctor sooner than later. Do what you need to do to keep yourself from getting hurt. If that means staying away, not calling, etc. then do so. That's what I have to do for now, it's the best decision I have made in a long time. Oh and as for TTC, try to enjoy it, try not to think about it too much, and it will happen.
@rainbow417 I am sorry you lost your relationship with your mom. I know completely what you mean about being lonely. I get bored or something silly happens and my first thought is oh let me call mom. But then I think is it worth the abuse. No it isn't. So I don't call. :( I know she is going through some things. I have tried to help support her through those things and help with her load of things but to no avail. I am afraid that she is presenting with early on set Alzheimer's disease. There has been several red flags. I would love for her to see a Dr but she refuses and then abuses me. Idk.
Just this year I have lost the relationship with my mom, long story. But she's the only one who can fix it. I'm lonely without a mom, we were pretty close.
I hope you two can figure things out and it get better. She must be going through something to be treating you so.
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I can't take it anymore! Haley (yes my 1mth old and no I wasn't able to go through this "joy" of nursing my older daughter, Molly) has been screaming non stop for 6hrs! All she wants to do is eat and I can't have her attached to me all day, everyday! She has wanted to eat every hr on the hr for the past 3hrs! I put her in her room so I don't scream at her but I just can't take it!
I just absolutely love some women on here! Some woman wants to write on another women's post telling her she shouldn't be having sex at all in the beginning of pregnancy. I didn't know she was her doctor. Then she wants to tell me that the first trimester is only 1-9 weeks pregnant. And she lost her baby at 4 weeks pregnant due to sex. Like sweetie that's your period starting!
So over this feeling!
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@barbiebonbon yeah get a second opinion
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