Okay I need someone to talk with and I am asking if you could please be nice verbally about this... my son is 8 months old (daughter 8 years) big gap and I feel so am learning everything over again.
I started to have my son sleep in my arms and yes I co slept with him. I have tried him in another bed the fisher price rock and play it has a recline in it and he slept in that many different times but with breastfeeding and being a single mom with a new baby and sleep deprived once he woke for
His first feeding I would fall asleep with him and didn't lay him back in....
Not to mention how I had times where my it was harder to get to him because of my hips/pelvic issue.
He is a extremely light sleeper and it made it impossible to get any rest because he would wake up as soon as he felt you laying him down....
I tried everything and even his swing.. I am going through a divorce and I am trying to do my best.
I am now in need of advice. He is becoming to mobile.
His doctor recommended a couple books that would help me. I also was told it's recommend to keep him in my room until at least one year.
Do I move his crib in my room? I know the crying it out method is not like it used to be. There are many other ways to help teach them self soothing.. I know co sleeping is not good and I made it harder in ways but I know all that I just could use advice and ideas on what I could try.
What you might have done? Etc.
My youngest co-slept with me until he was almost 2. I ended up getting bed bumpers (long, half cylinder cushions) and a futon mattress. You can get both for a reasonable price on Amazon.
I kept the mattress in his room with the bumpers on either side of it under the sheets. There was enough space for me to sleep comfortably and he could lay down and move as much as he needed right next to me. It also got him used to sleeping in his own room. It made it easier for both of us to get some rest without worrying about falling out of bed or sleeping too close together.
Once you feel like he's used to sleeping on the bed, you can just roll off the mattress and sneak away, without the whole trying to lay him down after he's already asleep part. Keep a baby gate in his doorway so if he wakes up before you, he can't sneak into less baby safe areas of the house. That makes it so you can keep his door open to hear if he cries.
Other than that the best I can offer is to have patience. Every baby will move at their own pace. So even if your kids were closer together, you may have had to learn everything all over again anyway. Mine are only 19 months apart and I definitely had to! Good luck, and I hope this helps a little bit :)
I kept the mattress in his room with the bumpers on either side of it under the sheets. There was enough space for me to sleep comfortably and he could lay down and move as much as he needed right next to me. It also got him used to sleeping in his own room. It made it easier for both of us to get some rest without worrying about falling out of bed or sleeping too close together.
Once you feel like he's used to sleeping on the bed, you can just roll off the mattress and sneak away, without the whole trying to lay him down after he's already asleep part. Keep a baby gate in his doorway so if he wakes up before you, he can't sneak into less baby safe areas of the house. That makes it so you can keep his door open to hear if he cries.
Other than that the best I can offer is to have patience. Every baby will move at their own pace. So even if your kids were closer together, you may have had to learn everything all over again anyway. Mine are only 19 months apart and I definitely had to! Good luck, and I hope this helps a little bit :)