Are having second thoughts about keeping my baby normal?
I don't want to give her up, but I don't know if I can handle being a mother right now. I thought I could handle it but honestly I don't see myself mentally stable enough to raise her as of now..
I know this is a really touchy question, I'm just wondering if my thought process is normal and anyone else has felt the way I do.
I'm due in May and obviously I'll have her either way, but I mean, do these thoughts come and go? Are they normal? Am I just freaking out? I'm just confused and scared and nervous and insecure about the whole thing.
totally normal! I felt the same way. even thought of abortion but I dug down deep an i knew that she was meant to be here an i loved her. now I can't be any more happy !! just ride through the emotions you'll get through it :)@chloeadelle
I would try to get counseling.try to weigh the pros and cons of your decision.don't do anything you'll regret later
I've been having these same thoughts 💭 personally I don't know if it's normal because I'm expecting my first...😟
I can't say I have ever felt this way but I can say this I wanted my baby so bad I love him more than anything I thought I would just love him but I really really love him I know that sounds crazy but all the things I said I wouldn't do like sleep with baby wean baby from boob at one they r out the window he sleeps with me on the boob all night and I love it. I had no clue I could love this much when he was born I was happy but not to the point of tears with baby number 2 I will bawl my eyes out bc I truly know now how sweet it is to have a child and b a mom it's amazing I'm here to talk if u want to chat message me anytime. @chloeadelle,
I think having a baby is really overwhelming. My SO and I were going through a rough patch for a lot of my pregnancy and all I wanted was my son to be here. But there was other days I regretted getting pregnant and couldn't imagine spending the rest of my life with him as the father of my children. Now that my son is here I couldn't imagine it any other way. I think it's just how you're coping with outside situations that puts stress on you and how you're feeling plus pregnancy hormones are absolutely insane. You won't know how you feel being a mom until your baby is actually born.
These emotions could all be very normal... I know with my first, I never really felt connected to my pregnancy, like I knew there was a baby in there, but emotionally I was overwhelmed by the idea of having some tiny human depend on me for everything... after delivering early at 33w2d... and watching this super tiny baby grow and fight so hard, I fell in love, and could never imagine life without her... I don't know your story, so I can't say what is best for you... maybe go talk to someone about the fears you have... postpartum depression is a real thing and I would hate for these doubts and fears to linger on after deliver... for some women adoption is really the best answer, there are many families who can't conceive! I have a friend and a cousin who both choose adoption for their first born... and another friend who choose adoption for her second because she had no family to help, and was struggling to simply support her first... and the father decided he wanted no part of the child. They all stand 100% behind their choice being best for everyone! Never hurts to have more information, and to talk to someone to help sort out your thoughts!