so my husband's baby momma is asking for 350 a month from him but she stop the child support so I told him to open a…

if I was in your situation, I would definitely have my husband go to court and do child support through the proper legal standards. I would just give her money because if the agreement isn't in writing or you guys aren't keeping documents like receipts or bank statements stating what yoy paid her and when. she could turn around and take you to court for back pay although he's been paying all this time if there's no paper trail to prove he has.

she file for it my hubby was happy and she saw it was a little so she stop it

What do you mean she stopped the child support?!

@yaviel.82

she stop the child support and we going all the bank and where she spends the card we getting a inform by texts so she can only use it for the daughter

I know and I understand but ultimately unless the child is neglected you can't do anything. And if you have a problem with the amount he really should go through the court/state for a proper amount which is determined by the amount of she spends with her mom, her mom's income, and her dad's income

yes I understand but we don't want her to be spending on her and her man we giving her money for the daughter @yaviel.82

Sounds like your husband should go through the court to set up the proper amount of child support...unfortunately it's not up to you guys to determine how she spends it

during this week we going to the bank setting up account and my hubby going to ask to send him texts where she using the money for his daughter and we writing up an agreement when we get her and we want to be involved more and other stuff so she can't say anything @kimberlyyyy_the-preemie-mom

she is six years old@kimberlyyyy_the-preemie-mom

Then maybe your husband should get something in writing about visitation so he can help if that's what she's bitching about. If a dad WANTS to be involved the baby momma should agree to let him help... unless that's her way of playing the "I do everything for this kid, the dad should pay for everything else" card which would be some bullshit.

I guess the next question is how old is the kid? If she's out of diapers then the amount for support should be lowered. If she's old enough to be in school your husband could give the school money for lunch and he could take that out of the amount paid to her for support. I'm trying to think of ways he could pay for what the KID needs vs what baby mama needs. It's not fair to the kid for the mom to be pocketing the money.

but she is not working not helping and saying that we not helping her because she doesn't let us when it comes to he daughter making us look bad and she study for nurse has everything for her future but doesn't wanna help @kimberlyyyy_the-preemie-mom

I think it's fair for the amount but she doesn't let us see his daughter but she wants the money we haven't gave money untill everything is set up like she stop the child support and seems she struggles with money with her new man @kimberlyyyy_the-preemie-mom

I think the $150 for the support and $150 in an account for the kids future seems fair since she remarried. I get child support from my son's bio douchebag and my husband pays for whatever else our kids need. Your husbands baby mama can't expect your husband to pay for everything, especially if there's a man in the kid's life I'm assuming is a father figure.