As the day draws closer and closer I'm trying to stop myself from freaking out. Because of my age (40) the doctor is having me do a first trimester screening for genetic abnormalities for things like Spina bifida and down syndrome among others.
It's frying my nerves because it almost feels like they expect something to be wrong with my baby. I'm trying not to think the worst but they keep mentioning advanced maternal age and increased chances of ... just everything. I know they want to be prepared for if something is wrong and they want us to be prepared to be able to adapt in time but, even knowing why doesn't make it any easier.
I'm having a hard time gearing myself up for this and it's on Wednesday. I know they are drawing more blood for the test I'm not exactly sure what else is involved but I feel just terrified like I did something awful but accidentally getting pregnant at my age.
I'm sorry, I really am. Hubby doesn't understand and everyone else just tells me I'm worried about nothing.. it doesn't feel like nothing.
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@babymakes11, of course! That's what we are here for ❤
I just wanted to say thanks to all the mommies. @dreamermom @sarahbellee @dinak064 @usafwife @twinmom1227 @sherrynygirl @
Are you completely sure it's due to age? I thought all pregnant women get tested for those and have a first trimester screening. I had one and I'm 26. The test are normal, however they always seem to assume age heightens the risks. which in some cases may be true, but hunny there are many women having healthy children at 40. Don't be discouraged!! I wouldn't say youre worried about nothing but I will say don't stress yourself.
@babymakes11 i am 37 yrs old..had my 1st son at age 16..the only great part of high risk pregnancy is lots of ultrasounds:) I didn t do amniocintis either its likely to cause miscarriage..You agree to the tests you want as i did.i have a healthy 3rd son..drs don't know it all .wish you well
@dreamermom @usafwife @sarahbellee Thanks ladies. I have already told my husband and the office no matter what comes of this screening I'm not doing any others. No amniocentesis no quad screen, nada. I just need to get this one out of the way because I'm hoping it will help my husband and if for any reason something is wrong the hospital can be more prepared.
That's so frustrating!!!! if it makes you feel better, my mom was either 39 or 40 (I forget lol) when she had my brother. They treated her the same way but her pregnancy went perfect and he's 100% happy and healthy and 15 years old now! everything will go good! I'm sorry doctors are so annoying sometimes :( Normal to be worried though!!
I keep getting the same thing from the last nurse midwife I met... I opted to decline the tests (I'm 35), because I would never terminate and if there is something 'abnormal' they would pick it up on the anatomy scan... so I don't want the extra stress... they keep acting like I'm crazy! 😒
@babymakes11, I can totally understand how you could feel that way. I am high risk for multiple reasons and feel like I'm ALWAYS at the doctor doing this or that. I would just look at it as one of many things that can put you in a high risk category and everything is simply a precaution!
Their is a higher risk for something to go wrong or birth defects etc at your age being pregnant. But you could have a perfectly normal pregnancy and healthy baby! They just have to be on their toes just incase! My cousin just had a baby and she's in her late 30s but her and baby are healthy and she had a good pregnancy. :)