Hi ladies I need help/advice! I've asked on Ovia community but I was told to stop over reacting! I thought I'd ask on…

How can she think this is right 😡. I'm fuming at the fact that she says it's okay and there's more to worry about! What if she gains an infection? Shall I not worry? What if she rips it out in her sleep & her ear rips? Shall I not worry? What if she cries because it hurts? Shall I not worry? Inflicting pain for no reason is a good enough excuse to worry about the fact he went behind my back. If he asked I would've said no but at least he would have asked. Thankyou ladies @mother_of_humans @tg123456789 @natzie86 @sara-lou xxxx

its like me saying kid knapping a child for period of time off the other parent cause they are the father is ok. or me saying that a father hitting the childs mother is acceptable and to kick off over it is ott and making something out of nothing as the mother must have deserved the violence and the worry of child been taken...of course i know its not right but just to rile everyone ill say it.

@mother_of_humans

Me and my oh have this 'debate' quite a lot. He wants to get our girls ears done (2&1) and I don't agree. Even though they are older than your baby I still don't agree. I'd go mad if he took our girls out and pierced their ears behind my back.

god im really having to bite my tounge cause could easy go mental on her @sara-lou

You are clueless and if you think this is an OK thing for a parent to do to their child without consenting then I feel bad for your children. If someone took me into town sat me down and pierced holes in my body I'd be bloody annoyed. Why is it OK to do it to a baby??? @harlie

Yeah you're definitely over reacting 🙄No of course you're not!!! You have every right to be annoyed at him. You made it clear you did not want them done until she can ask herself. I agree with you Hun, it's inflicting pain for no reason at all. Tbf I see them for the parents not the baby's. The parents want the kids to have them done - so they do it! I don't have anything against parents who get their their kids ears pierced but without permission? That's a piss take!

@carly_, It wasn't a responsible thing to do what with her being so little and hadn't he thought of infection etc? Even if he's a good Dad, and is good with her he was pretty senseless to do that to her and even the fact she could be allergic like my niece was. And without your permission. No, your in your right to feel as you do. x x

She's a child not a fashion statement! Cute bows, dresses etc yes but piercings at 3 months? He knew I didn't want them done - he's just gone behind my back. His family are fuming at him! I am not slating him I am being honest. & yeah I know hun, he could've asked! It's really annoying tbf, hate being stabbed in the back 😔xxx

I see where you are all coming from, but at the end of the day your ex should have asked for your permission before going ahead and doing it. Even he should have listened to you if you told him you wanted to wait till she was older. I think that 3 months is way too old to have their ears pierced. He should at least waited until she was one. Xx

I think you are all over reacting it's piercing..there's bigger things to be worrying about in life than a piercing😂 stop slating her dad and be thankful he's done something for her..if you don't consider him in your decisions why should he consider you? just because you're worried she won't like it when she's older I'm not being funny if she doesn't she just won't wear earrings it's that simple tbh

He's just text me telling me to stop making something out of nothing! Emily has been crying for over an hour now!! She's been fed, changed and bathed so she must be in pain 😡xx

wow... I didn't think you could do it that young... I would be mad.. just reading your post has riled me... tbh I think its cruel... it would have bloody hurt a lot and your poor little lady wouldn't have understood y. xx

Over reacting?! How dare he! He had absolutely no right to do this without your input! I would go ballistic! The pure fact he went out to do this without your consent is sickening. He undermined your view in the subject and went ahead and did this. This isn't him buying some dress or toy, this is a piercing! Violating your rights as a mum! Things like this should be discussed! I'd be very angry and more so disappointed x @carly_ someone who tells you your over reacting when they created the issue is what narcissists do. Making you feel bad for something you never did wrong. It's wrong x bang out of order what he did. X

I would be pissed too. It's not even just the piercing it's the after care too. X

I told him I didn't want them done until she was old enough to ask! She might not like them when she's older. I hate the thought of inflicting pain on her for no reason! She had no say in it, which is what upsets me. I made it clear she was not to get them done. Yes it's his daughter - but I did not want them done. He should have asked not go behind my back.

@harlie,

Piercing another humans body parts , especially a baby who has no say in the matter, is a big deal. When parents are separated they should discuss these issues before getting it done. Also you don't know if she's done things without asking him either. I don't think it's a nice thing at all but an incredibly stupid selfish act.

but it's his daughter too..and you probably do things he doesn't agree with and I'm sure he doesn't have a go at you for it..it's a piercing he was doing a nice thing for his baby! you need to see it from his perspective too

That's fine if you want to with your child but she didn't so him going off and doing it is a big issue @harlie

honestly I don't see the issue yeah he never asked but it's his daughter too!! I wanna get my little girls ears pierced soon

She's 3 months Hun. I do believe she cried, I think he's just trying to sugar coat it x

how old is she n i dont bleve a baby wouldnt cry as this.. uve not over reacted id be livid x

Thanks ladies! Was told I was over reacting and just laughed tbf! I did not want them done because it's inflicting pain for no bloody reason! My mums booked her a doctors appointment for tomorrow! I'll definitely be taking them out! Xx

I'd be fuming! I personally dislike babies having their ears pierced but that fact he's not asked before doing it isnt on. I'd be taking them out straight away and be having a very long and heated conversation with her Dad!

I'd be fuming!! no way is anyone doing that to my child without my consent!! I totally believe in waiting until they are old enough to decide for themselves. They do look cute on her I guess. When they heal (after 6 weeks) you can take them out and let the holes close xx

You are so not over reacting! That is unbelievable hun. I would be going through the roof. He should have spoke to you first! You need to tell him he's a bloody idiot. Xx

Definitely not over reacting! I'd be furious! I have pretty strong views on ear piercing on babies/young children which I won't express as I'd probably get a backlash but if my ex had done this to our baby I'd be taking the studs out of her ears so they heal up and she can ask when she's older to have them done and I'd be taking his head off his shoulders! Riles me right up! xx