Will do thanks hun😘

@mariah_grandberry, let him see u doing positive thins too. I know u do but make sure he really notices nice things u do for them too.

And they come before me

Thanks@morganmommy79 every time I tell him he says I hate his kids

On the flip side... my husband is my older children's stepfather. He's always angry at me saying I take my sons side. For awhile I resented him for saying that. I finally see that my son can get mouthy and I have to teach him respect for my husband regardless. However, my husband nitpicks at everything! Don't touch this, don't touch that, be quiet, get away from that... it's annoying! Things changed when my husband started spending time with him and doing things he wanted to do. We have way less blow ups and I trust my husband more now that he's not picking at everything he does. He's 12 so he's going to make mistakes and I told my husband he needs to realize that. As far as your situation, the husband has as little respect for you as his son and it's wrong. You are #1 and he needs to learn that. Those kids will grow up and move out one day and it'll be just you two. If all the time and attention is spent on the kids you two won't know each other when the time comes. You'll be like strangers. I started watching videos on blended families and he "heard" them and I think it helped him understand our situation. Fight for your marriage. I know you are. Let your husband know how u feel in A way he doesn't feel threatened or that you don't "hate" his son. It's a sensitive subject he may take personally so tread carefully. Good luck! 👍🏼

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Well that just shows ya husband doesn't care smh

@babyattmore, he tells me to go when I say that

Btw you should always learn your spouse u need to know what to say & do to make your hubby do exactly what u want him to. Lol my line is " I'm leaving I'm going to my mothers house " as soon as I say that he does exactly what I wanted him to do. Or I give my hubby the silent treatment oh boy he hates that

Thank u and I always been saying that once u show a child he got power of your spouse they start acting like they the shit smh he can get away with a lot cause his father isn't going to do anything

Well he needs too !! Because like I said he is the problem not the child. Your stepson gives u problems for 3 reasons 1. Your not his biological mom 2. He's a teenage at 17 all kids get to that attitude rude stage & 3. Because he see his dad always choose him over you. So to him you don't even matter. Your husband needs to get it together.

His excuse is that's what teenagers do

@babyattmore, my husband don't get in his ass smh...

The problem is NO ONE but your husband , I go through the samething but the difference is my husband gets in his daughters ass !!! He don't play that shit. When u marry someone your spouse is NUMBER 1 not your kid. You need to talk with your husband he's destroying y'all marriage not the kid.

If I don't like it smh

@kmharr3, I've done all that and if I talk to my husband he just argue or he tells me to go back home to my mother

They were not married my husband just took him but they giving me hell and I can't deal with it no more I understand it's his kid but at the end of he day he always chooses his kid over my word

I'm in the same situation my husband has a daughter with another woman and his child is destroying our marriage she's drying rude and my husband doesn't seem to mind she dislikes our son and my husband doesn't seem to mind that either

Tried all of that all I got was they stole my wedding rings my husband said I lost it...he stole my car it's just so much I can't even explain right now and I'm very tired @hayhayes1 there's nothing more I can do

I agree with previous poster. although you may not get along with your husbands son, he is almost 18 so there is no point in spending money to go to court to try to get the mother to take custody of him. it would be better if you just tried to get to know the son and try to have a relationship with him. he probably doesn't listen to you because he doesn't see you as a parental figure. however, maybe talk to your husband and tell him your about to loose your marbles and you would appreciate it if he would make sure his son just cleans up after himself since he won't listen to you. don't let it destroy your marriage

with the boy*

and try to open up to him so your relationship gets better.

try taking him out and do things with him

I think you should try getting on the boys side. he could have a lot of resentment towards you