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Holly
Holly
Мама сына (2 года), беременна (21 нед.)

Completely off topic but I need more mothers opinions on this matter. It's long so bare with me.

So my son will be 3 in October, and I've been in a custody battle with his father since March of this year. He has had steady time between the two of us, and has never had much of an issue going with his dad (which in itself was surprising at first considering his father hasn't been around much since he was 8 months old or even before that). But his father is now going to trial for a domestic abuse charge put against him when the next door neighbor saw him trying to push my 12 week pregnant self TWICE out of the car and onto the concrete while trying to strap my toddler into his car seat in his fathers car.

Since the incident, and I don't know if it's related, but he cries and screams and throws a fit when it's time to go to his fathers. My mother has to do the exchange, and just this past Sunday he ran and hid in the other room and begged and pleaded not to go to daddy's and to stay with mommy because he wants mamas house. I nearly cried. I don't know what to do for him. I cannot refuse to give him to him because it's court ordered, but I don't know if there's something going on at his home that I don't know about or what? And for my son to clearly state "please, memere don't let me go to daddy's I want to stay with mommy" is a big thing for him... He is partially deaf and can't speak well. I'm worried sick at this point.

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kiml7613

KimМама сына (2 года), беременна (35 нед.)

definitely refuse to send him until he can be investigated. if you fear for his safety they cant force you to send him esp if he has harmed you while pregnant.

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hollyann710

HollyМама сына (2 года), беременна (21 нед.)

The mans 10k overdue in child support, abandoned me during my pregnancy, and barely around for my son, and the courts want to come down on me for trying to provide a better life for both of my sons...

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hollyann710

HollyМама сына (2 года), беременна (21 нед.)

If he's convicted on the 21st, he may just have to have supervised visits. I've been trying to move Nate and I out of state to live with family and my fiancé whom I'm pregnant with now, and I was completely willing to do shared time with him until Nate goes to school for my sons sake, but with the way he's acting I'm worried at this point... I want to believe his dad isn't doing anything, but he just moved in with his new girlfriend because he's losing his CNA job because of the domestic charge. I'm wondering if she's got anything to do with it either

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deleted-user

deleted-user

ask for supervised visits.

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hollyann710

HollyМама сына (2 года), беременна (21 нед.)

I have until October 18th when our family court meeting is assigned. I'm hoping to capture every pick up from here on out on video and bringing it with me. Something isn't right and my poor baby boy shouldn't have to cry like this

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littlelamby

MaryМама дочки-младенца

Record your kiddo saying this every time he does it... Use it against dad in court

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hollyann710

HollyМама сына (2 года), беременна (21 нед.)

I've been trying to ask him. He's in speech therapy now because he's behind but he's been doing so well. He's stressed out enough with having to leave me at all, I've been his only constant since he's been born. @3queenbee9 I tried to put him on the restraining order with me, but the judge refused it because there wasn't any "abuse or battery" done to him, he was just there to watch it all. Which i think is complete horse crap! And if they had given me the restraining order with him on it, I would have won custody AUTOMATICALLY!! But it was family courts jurisdiction. I'm hoping on the 21st when he goes to trial that he gets his criminal conviction and I can have my baby. He's done enough damage to him and isn't thinking of him at all. He's only thinking of getting back at me for leaving him for the mental abuse and physical abuse

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jazmin805

jazminМама сына-младенца, беременна (27 нед.)

if he does draw you one keep it and use it against him

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jazmin805

jazminМама сына-младенца, беременна (27 нед.)

omg this is soo sad...poor little one..i think thekrs something going on in that house.. is thekr any way your son can draw you a picture of what its like at his dads house if he cant tell you

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tt416

tМама подростков

You can get it rights taken away with a restraining order

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breezy1993

Bri

anyway he could tell you if something was going wrong there?

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