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My SiL and I used to be best friends. She was the one who set me up with David (our boyfriends are twins). Then we both…

My SiL and I used to be best friends. She was the one who set me up with David (our boyfriends are twins). Then we both got pregnant, her mom died, I was kind of a shitty friend, she started making questionable decisions (drinking/smoking while pregnant)...we ended up hating one another before she and my brother in law moved out. We didn't wanna be around each other, I wasn't allowed around her daughter, I stopped caring.

Anyways, a few weeks ago I gave in and messaged her. We talked stuff out. We're cool. uhm. I was expecting it to not go much further than that, just civility. Didn't think we'd ever really be friends again. But now she's messaging me wanting to hang out again and stuff. And I'm honestly really happy. I missed her so much. We've been friends since high school and we're pretty much just alike, so it just...makes me feel like maybe things can actually be okay again.

Advice please ? Long story... I'm getting married in April we decided no kids other than our own two and my niece And…

Advice please ? Long story... I'm getting married in April we decided no kids other than our own two and my niece And nephew as would end up more kids that adults and it would Cost so much more plus wanted parents to have a day/night to enjoy themselves. Anyway my "maid of honor" ( hasn't done much to help but cause me stress) has 5 kids her youngest will be around 5 months old she's breastfeeding him and keeps telling me she is gonna try and express ect... but I know she has no intentions of doing that and I worry she's gonna put me on the spot the day before and say he won't take a bottle (cos she wouldn't have tried) so she either can't come or has to bring him. I'm spending a lot of money for her dress, hair make up food ect... so deffo don't wanna be let down. But it's not just her that's got kids the ushers have kids and we said no kids. Now I know it's different as she's feeding him but I dunno what to do!? Do I say she can bring him (if my oh agrees too) or do I say she can't. This all sounds so awful when I read it but there will be two other guests that will have newer baby's than that coming and they arnt bringing them. The biggest thing is she's just not talking to me about any of this she's ignoring my messages and not making contact with me. But she's spoken to a friend about it who told her to talk to me and be honest about it all! Torn tbh as she's already not coming on my hen but still hasn't told me this!!! If she just came to me and said look I'm feeding my baby I don't wanna bottle feed him so either he comes or I can't I'd be happier she's being honest rather than dragging it out making out she gonna try and express. I don't expect her to I said it's down to her it's her baby. May I add that we fell out a while ago as she wasn't bothering with me ect any way we made up and I asked her be part of the wedding again so she could have said then I can but il have a baby then, but she didn't she just said it will be fine il sort out. So stressed ?

Still haven't told DH...

Still haven't told DH... ...that we're expecting! ? Tonight we were at dinner with my brother and SIL and they just had a baby 4 weeks ago. She said something about babies and DH replies, with such an attitude, "uh no! Never again, we are done!"