Idk how I'm gonna give birth vaginally if I'm horrible at tensing up when I get checked for dilation. Ugh. :(

During labor try to focus on what's happening rather than the labor pain. Instead of thinking "omg this hurts so bad ahhh" think "I'm feeling pressure and stretching and that means baby is being pushed out and I will be holding my baby soon" My midwife is calling it "mindfulness" in her birthing classes

you wont tense up lol trust me

your body will find a way believe me. I was the same way