@lizzyc09, you're right and that's why I don't trust him AT ALL whatsoever ! But yup I agree with everything you said . So true ! I'm just going to pray and keep steady like I've been doing .

@mrshamilton830, exactly ! I won't jump into conclusions ! we shall see how this plays out !! I'm praying for the best 🙌🏾

i would just let him know that being a parent is a FULL TIME responsibility and he can't come in and out, children need consistency and if that's not something he can provide to stay away, but you will see how he acts when the baby gets here, give him a chance to do right by his child

@mrshamilton830, alright yea you're right . Im just nervous because he's back and forth .

@creasquared, thanks for that information. I don't want anyone to think im being bitter or keeping him away because I've told him several times he's more than welcomed and I want my child to know his father ! I just don't trust him that's all

i would let him be there for his child but that's it

In the state of NJ if you don't file for custody of your children their considered wards of the state, even if you bring them home from the hospital with you. I found this out the hard way when my son was kidnapped by a family member and Newark PD asked me if I had custody of him and I was like well I brought him from the hospital and they were like no you have to file for custody in NJ in order to have it. So personally I would go to court anyway and do too he paperwork, explain the situation to a judge and see what he says. To be honest though, NJ is strict about parents being parents. I don't think the way he treated you while pregnant is going to keep him from having normal visitation schedule. Unless he's endangered the baby, or is like strung out on meth they'll allow him to take her for overnights and everything. My daughter's father an I went too court for him to sign over his parental rights voluntarily and the judge said no. They refused to not allow him to be a parent

@klarrissab, I was thinking the same thing because the trust is gone . I don't trust him at all

If he is being nice because he wants to be involved in the child's life (and it wasn't about trying to get back with me), then I would let him. But I would have strict boundaries in place until he proves himself worthy to be trusted. I wouldn't just let him come back and get full rights and access to baby, but I would allow him a chance to work his way to that point. I would want my baby's father involved in my child's life. But definitely on my terms, especially since he acted so disrespectful in the beginning. I'd would still file for custody/visitation agreement and child support though regardless of if I gave him a chance, that way he can't try and overstep the boundaries.

@rainbow0601, court it is lol 🙅🏽🙅🏽🙅🏽💁🏽

@creasquared, that's true !! But he hasn't been to any doctor appts & honestly this isn't about me anymore it's about his child . He had the nerve to say he only cares about his girl , mom , squad and a few of his family members ! Okay ?!!! What about the child you created ?!???? He's dead wrong

Oh helllllll no. Take him to court 💯

@ab1228, that's exactly what im going to do !! Leave it bee and keep it pushing like I've been doing . Thanks hun

Great minds think alike I swear @cjones !! I was making sure I'm not the wrong one here because I have yet to do anything to my ex

Well then screw him.... If he was asking about the baby it'd be one thing but if he's just trying to get back on the good graces, no.

Some men are capable of being good father's but shitty partners. My son's father was terrible to me when we were together, put hands on me and all. He's an amazing father. He loves his son and does right by him and I can't take that away from him because he was a shitty partner. If I would have kept him away from our son because of how he treated me my son would have lost out on an amazing dad.

I would leave it.. chances are it will only last a moment until baby gets big, than he'd probably turn back to the "old ways". Or not, you know people can change, but Idk personally, so I can't say too much about the situation.

He hasn't asked about his child at all lol @dcb012 . He's only trying to be nice because the child is about to be here . No one is not giving information he just hasn't asked for any *shrugs*

Oh im not lol thanks love @kaileenicole16

Fuck him tell him yall going to let the court handle it and write down everything he's done to you and how he let someone treat you. courts will be in your side and he has to deal with what he did

It's still his kid.... While he may have been an ass before he could've decided that's not what he wanted. I wouldn't trust him as far as you could throw him, but allowing him information about baby's growth isn't going to affect you...

Don't let him try to control you either✋🏼 fuck that man you don't need him✋🏼💙

@kaileenicole16, exactly !!!! Lol thinking the same thing ! Don't try to be relevant now !!!!

Fuck that✋🏼 personally I would be like fuck him. He missed you he can't pick and chose when he wants to come into his child's life that's not how it works