Starting to feel stressed beyond belief. My SO job driving a school bus is over next Tuesday and he has absolutely nothing else lined up. I'm sure my phone will be shut off. I can't even pay the power bill. I just hope we can pay rent. I just want to cry. I could have this baby any day now and he just won't get it in gear. He tells me I should be applying for jobs for him while he's at work. Yeah I can help but I feel like he's relying on my too much to do it. It's going to be too late and we're going to be screwed. Why can't I just find a backpack full of money. FML.
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I don't know what's worse 1st trimester sickness or 3rd trimester being big and uncomfortable. Especially if you've never been pregnant before and don't know what it feels like to be 37 weeks pregnant. At 29 weeks I was feeling good myself. Some people I swear. lmao @mommyagain
There isn't a difference between 30 and 37 weeks 👀👀👀???? Oh 😩😧😩😧 I learn something new everyday
Thank you. @mommyagain
Glad someone else understands.
@jacesterlingsmommy, Girl don't sit on here trying to explain your situation to a miss goodie 2 shoes don't even know you and bashing all while praising self smh people need to get details first before opening their mouths seriously
@jacesterlingsmommy girl we are friends, I knew more about your situation than they did 😘😘 I got you boo. When I woke up I was going to tell her you had a job, but no love do not wipe your man's tush... hhhuts grown lol
And thank you my ladies for understanding and sticking up for me! @emkasting @hermommy
Wow. Well I wasn't intending to get bashed. Our situation isn't just cut and dry like you're making it seem. I literally just quit working full time myself. I haven't been laying on my ass this whole time. I supported both of us for over 6 months while he struggled to find a job and I was pregnant. Yes you're right I can go to the library and help him out but the way you put it was rude. As he is currently in between routes he is sitting here playing a video game, that's my point. I also see you don't have any children yet, neither do I so when you get to 9 1/2 months pregnant let me know how you're still feeling. You came off as very judgemental, how do you know I'm not on strict bedrest? He's known for months this was coming and still hasn't done anything about it until now it's almost too late. He works 6 hours a day. I'd have no problem going with him and helping him fill out apps but I shouldn't be the only one doing it while he sits here doing nothing working those few hours. It's not like he's grinding on 40 hours a week and comes home beat. So again before you say those things you don't know someone's situation. I'm not explaining myself any further. Have a great day! 😉 @jojobear0819
@jojobear0819, 30 weeks and 37 weeks is a COLOSSAL difference..Honestly your comments to her are kinda rude. Congratulations on being a CNA and working til 30 weeks...but not everyone can do that. In my case I was put on bed rest at 19 weeks and have been completely unable to work since then. I had to quit a job that made me BIG money. I was pretty heartbroken and still am but since then my boyfriend has had to take up sole financial responsibility. At 37 weeks she could have her baby ANY second, literally. I can't think of hardly anywhere that would hire someone who's that far along because it's a risk. Girl I understand why you're stressed out. The fact of the matter is you're not working, you can't anymore and your man is aware of that. So he knows he needs to take the financial end of things for now, even if it's briefly, and he's not. Which is causing you and him unnecessary stress. I get it. You can message me if you want, you know that! :)
@jojobear0819 yes that is a big difference but we have different opinions. let's leave it at that.
@jojobear0819, I agree. Most people can't survive on one income anymore. There are very few of us who are lucky enough to stay home. I am at home because of my wonderful restrictions not by choice. I have an IUD in place so I'm a complicated pregnancy. Anyways, without knowing the situation yes @jacesterlingsmommy could help. She could get a job but does it make much sense to get a job and then take a leave in a couple of days or weeks? It doesn't to me. My opinion, fill out some applications for him. It's a quick process and benefits YOUR family! Spend a half hour a day filling out applications and help your man find a job! Yes, it's work but he's putting in the work by going to his job every single day to support your family. Help the guy out a little. Seriously, what is a few minutes here and there filling out applications?
Pick ups. Drop offs. He has plenty of time in between to do applications, it seems. My neighbor drives a school bus & has odd jobs between p/u & d/o.
you can't work, that's cool. you could have the baby at any minute, cool. But if you're not trying to help in anyway.. like I filled out applications for my SO. he did a lot by himself but I still helped. I still pushed him and went with him job hunting or found out hiring places for him to go too. that was a 3 month struggle and I didn't have a job until 2 weeks before. we struggled. I've been through this, that's why I say...try to help. he's already got it on his mind that he's the man and not feeling like a man because he's not providing for his child and so. don't make him feel worse for it, try to understand and push. he's worrying more than you probably think.
@hermommy, no, I didn't say she should find him a job. 30 and 37 isn't that huge of a difference. she could have the baby but they can't fire her for being pregnant, there are laws against that. like for instance, how long has she not had a job or not pitched in? I agree with the team part, you can't work right now because of a choice you made. some people don't get to take that 6 weeks. some wait until they're recovered enough and jump back into it because they have too. I was hired at 6 months pregnant. they refuse to give me light duty despite the whole belly thing and doctors note.
I don't agree with her and job part..but loves plays a big part!!.if you don't nothing else doing the day why not fill apps out for your man if you know the bills have to get paid,and you need money and he works during the day. he doesn't need his ass wiped but if thats your husband your a TEAM! so why not?
@jojobear0819 she can't get a job at 37 weeks pregnant there is a HUGE difference between 30 weeks and 37 weeks she could have her baby tonight. Thats not what she meant at all but no its not her responsibility to find that man a job. He has a brain he can do it himself, it's that simple he's grown and doesn't need someone to wipe his ass.
you do know when searching for a job sometimes they will not hire pregnant women plus she's 37 weeks pregnant she just can't get a job then ask for maternity leave . @jojobear0819
Well honestly it sounds like you're putting everything on him. you're pregnant...not dead. I'm 30 weeks this Thursday and I have a very active job. I'm a CNA. I'm not on light duty. My SO works too. but I've been in that situation. it's hard but honestly y'all both gotta get y'alls shit straight. it's y'alls life. this isn't the 50s. people can't survive in a world like that anymore..where the husband works and the wife doesn't and takes care of kids. some people don't make money like that.
@jacesterlingsmommy, Girl at 37 weeks I quit going to the doctor O couldn't even get around anymore I'm so serious and you're right at 28 29 30 weeks I was fine...giiiiiiiiiiirl I was thinking this isn't church that's where you go to testify about how gooooood God has been to you it's a d@m pregnancy app with real life people and situations 👊