so I was talking to my dad tonight and he brought up how me and my boyfriend are not married or engaged but in the state of Colorado we're pretty much common law married. and my dad asked why we don't just go and get hitched.. (never thought I'd hear my father say that ) but then I say were going to I just don't know when. he said well then the kid should get my last name until we get married. my sister has two kids with two different last names then her and my dad hates it. how do I bring it up to the bf? what should I do??
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its not your dads choice. it isn't just your choice. your so has every right to have his last name involved. its honestly none of your father's business what you two do. my hubby an I were shotgun weddinged by his father before we were ready. our daughter has his last name. he's her father. if you want you can even give lo both or a totally different last name from both of you. but ultimately its you and daddy's choice.
My family told me to put my last name with our baby's name since me and my SO aren't hitched either.
I think u should give it his last name. He's the dad. How would ur dad feel in the same situation if he were the father?
I would definitely give the baby your last name if you aren't married yet... I have a 9 year old with a different last name than me ☹️ obviously things didn't work out for her dad and I, I wish all the time I would have given her my last name. You can always change it if you get married, easier that way than to piss him off and change it to yours if that makes any sense.
It's completely your choice; however, I do agree with your dad and if you agree with him too, I would start off by letting your bf know that you want your child to have the same name as you then coast from there. Let him bring up marriage because ultimately you will never want to hear that you "forced" him to marry you. If he asks about you guys getting married be completely honest - of course I want to get married or no I'm not comfortable with that right now... It's completely up to you and you don't want to cause a fight or come off as you're rushing him to get married, have a baby, create a family. Men get so overwhelmed and sensitive when it comes to that. Be mindful and know it is a touchy subject. Try to let him do ALL the talking. Think it through on what you want out of your relationship before you approach him.
It's YOUR choice first then your boyfriends. It's what y'all wanna do
I would put dad's lay name since you guys are common law and plan to eventually get hitched. There's no point in having a different last name just to change it later lol