I'm new here an just looking for some support & advice. So my mother-in-law smokes an she knows that if she smokes she needs to wash her hands an spray herself or whatever to hold my daughter (6months) an she is starting to get an attitude about it. I feel she's my daughter an I'm protecting her but it really makes me mad that she just doesn't care. An she also try's to give her food when I'm not around an I don't want her doing that an me an my fiancé have both told her that. I feel She just doesn't care what I say. What would yall do in this situation?
@kimberkatherine, Ya I even told her I was like look she's my child I say what goes. She's my first priority.
@aubreesmommy091415, that is what I would do in the situation anyway. I mean it is your child and that is number one
Thanks lady's @babyjjsmommy @kimberkatherine I guess I'm going to have to start being more firm.
Show her you mean what you say. Start having consequences. Sometimes adults can act like children and you have to set your boundaries and stick with them.
I had that problem with my mom. She couldn't just respect it when i asked her not to smoke on the way to the hospital when I was in labor. Sure, they can wash their hands. But it's still going to be on their clothes and in their hair so they are still bringing it around. That's why my mom has seen my son about 4x and he'll be 10 weeks old Thursday.
Yeah I feel like that's what I'll have to do because I don't want my daughter around the second or third hand smoke. An my fiancé has tried telling his mom but I guess we will just have to be more firm. An Ya my daughter is strictly breastmilk an once a day she will get baby food.
Restrict her time with your daughter. I have to tell my grandma not to smoke before she comes to visit my twins in the hospital. And I'm so serious about it. My mom already knows she'll have to turn her away if she shows up smelling of cigarettes. I don't want my babies around that at all. I feel bad yes but my babies will not suffer the smell because she wants to smoke. She can make a choice. That's what it comes down to. And the food thing would drive me nuts. Definitely give her one last warning and let her know her time will be up if she can't follow what you say.
Thank you @kimberkatherine