Mamas I just don't know what to do. I think my boyfriend may be cheating but I'm not too sure. Well first of he is an excellent dad and loves all of his children. He loves our son to death. But today in his vest pocket I found 2 condoms. He and I have never ever used condoms in all the time we have been together which brings me to think he's cheating. I caught him In a lie about 2 years ago when I seen he was cheating. I don't know if I want to keep putting up with the unfaithfulness. Not to mention I am currently pregnant with our second child.
@ftm2babyc, absolutely correct I definitely will be having a talk with him about that!
if he's a good father to your child(ren) I would tell him straight up how you feel, tell him how much he hurt you and everything, and let him know you no longer want to be together. but for the sake of your kids, you want him to still be around (not technically living with you if that doesn't work)
@brand_3, you know that's exactly what I'm waiting for. I only texted him saying you think you're slick. He's probably at home thinking of an excuse not knowing what I'm going to do or say.
I would. don't say anything till your face to face with him then you can tell alot by his reaction
@brand_3, I couldn't do anything because when I found them I was already at work. But once I get home oh lord. I text him saying he thinks he was slick he said what. I'm thinking about walking in the house and throwing the 2 condoms at him. I wonder what he would say or do then.
Well he's with me @brand_3 so I wouldn't go anywhere he would be the one removing himself.
oh hell no if I would've found condoms in my SO pocket and know it's not from us I'd be gone. and if you stay with him knowing what you know he's gonna always take advantage of the fact you'll never leave and will continue to cheat.
Thank goodness you'll be moved on and not waiting on him all that time! What a waste of a life that would be. It's not easy to make these decisions but when you look back you'll see the fork in the road very clearly and know that today was a very important and revealing day for you no matter what path you choose.
@calebsmommy1121, Oh my goodness!!! That's not a good man! He may have bought those condoms with your money for all you know! You're busting your butt and he doesn't even have a job? You can do so much better- with less effort even! He needs a wake up call fast!
@rgaine, you're right. And don't get me wrong it's not as if he's helping me any at all. I pay all bills and all. He doesn't even have a job everything is all on me. If anything he will miss me. Smh. He's too old but I forgot maturity doesn't have an age.
@chichi1975, you are absolutely correct. I don't want to waste anymore years not even days if this shit isn't working
The way I look at it, he's not so great of a dad if he's gonna be a liar. a sneak, and will teach his kids how to treat women with his bad actions. Do not stay in this relationship, is my opinion. I hate for you to regret it when he cheats yet again in another couple years down the road.
They don't change even if they try get out before you waste more years like me you are beautiful and deserve more my first husband was 8 years older does not make it ok@calebsmommy1121
@raegenice, @chichi1975 @jesjeslovesyou @manyysue @krstokes2016 he's a great dad he really is but if he is cheating which I'm pretty sure he is judging on the condoms then I know he wasn't worth me all alone. Smh. It's kind of sad. He's only my second and it makes me sad to know this is probably not working out.
@chichi1975, it's only going on 3 years for us come July but that's 3 years too long if this man thinks cheating is fine
@mandysue, you're right. @jesjeslovesyou and as soon as I question him about the condoms I bet he says why were you going through my pocket. Smh. As supposed to answering the question he's going to try to loop around it I'm willing to bet
I'd leave him momma, that is some shit up with which you will not put. Seriously. You don't need him if he's just going to be doing you wrong. So do what's best for you and your babies
Due what's best for you but I regret letting in continue over and over after 15 year marriage I finally realized I don't want my boys growing up seeing this or thinking it's ok so against my belief I got a divorce and the good Lord sent me a faithful man the second time around I'm so happy but this is just my story@calebsmommy1121
@jesjeslovesyou, exactly. I have the bullshit especially with all the damn women friends. And the fact that my guy thinks it's cool to still be friends with all his exs and he flaunts me around them like everything is fine. 😒 it's always something.
And you shouldn't! You sound like a good women. You'll find someone better and if you're alone for Little it's better than wondering and worrying about his grown ass
@mandysue, he doesn't even have a job because he has a bad back ground. And last year he lost the job he had because he lied saying he missed work because he was in a hospital.
@mandysue, and he's way older than I am. I'll only be 24 and he will be 33. There is a 9 year gap for us. I really want it to work but I don't want to continue to take care of a grown ass man who doesn't have any respect for me what so ever
Girl my man has a shit ton of female "friends" and I'm ready to leave. I don't even want to deal with it in my relationship. I don't trust it and I find it mad disrespectful.. I can't imagine actually finding condoms. You gotta talk to him and find out what'sup. Something doesn't sound right.
@krstokes2016, you are absolutely right. When I get off I definitely and going to ask
@jesjeslovesyou, he talks to so many people men and women. He's the co-CEO of their social club.
Condoms? If you don't use it then who is he using them with... And why does he have them? Baby there's no other reason to have a condom unless you're fucking. Talk to him about it or investigate lol... I'd look and see who he has been talking to. You need answers.
@raegenice, you're right. But I mean he really can't lie and say they're someone else's or he's holding them for someone. Like come on really. It's just really bothering me that he would do this. If so I would hate to but I'll just leave him. @indigenousmommy @mandysue
@madibrice, everything is fine now.