might be my pregnancy hormones, but i feel like my mother in law is trying to "take over" being the mom of my child. she keeps buying him his bedroom furniture, which I appreciate, but I feel like she should of sent me a picture and asked if I liked it or let me pick it out or something. she got in between Justin and I when we were arguing and told me that "I wouldn't have what I have if it wasn't for her," and "you can't raise this baby without my financial support." I have cried for days over this, I just feel like she is stepping on my toes and it really is starting to bother me. I'm trying to keep my mouth shut, but I know I can raise this baby by myself, and they BOTH are telling me otherwise like I'm not good enough or something. I just think I should be involved in decisions on what his dresser looks like, and what stickers go on the wall. I just don't feel like the mommy anymore... :(
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I would feel the same way girl. have you mentioned this to your SO maybe he can tell his mom that you two want the say in what is bought for your child. I understand it's hard when someone else is buying it, but it would be common courtesy for her to at least include you in the process. Maybe ask to go shopping with so you can voice your opinion
It is your baby so you do have a say. She should be asking you what you like and taking you with when getting furniture and stuff for the baby. I've had similar problems with my bf's mother just deciding to buy car seats and cribs without my input on what I like and without even consulting me on what I'm going to be using for baby. Don't let what they say hurt you too much. Don't even let it get you down. Maybe remind her if you can that she is just the grandmother and even though she has bought quite a bit for the baby and you are grateful, she needs to take a step back and let you do what you want for the baby.
Definitely not the hormones! I'd feel the same way! I'd be pissed if my husband didn't tell her anything when she was saying how you'd have nothing if it wasn't for her! If I was you, I would tell her something back. But then again, I don't take shit from anyone. Lol.
I usually ask for my MILs opinion for a lot of things, she's a bit controller but a really serving, good and loving person she has acted like she is my mother since I live with her . But I let her clear enough that my child is and will remind mine forever . I'm carrying him, I'm suffering during pregnancy, I will bring him to the world.. That means he's only mine and my husbands. I always do my things with her I take her everywhere or I ask her to take me where I need to go so I don't go by myself... But if it's related to the baby I try to go by myself or with my husband only... When I had to do the baby registry I knew it wasn't gonna be good if I took her with me ... She was gonna give her opinion on everything and make me thing twice of everything. So I went with my husband and choice all the big and important stuff that we like she didn't even knew we went there until we arrive and show it to her . Even tho she wants to buy the crib . And then I got a few things to add on the list and I took her with me to make her feel good . She added a lot of things and was happy. I have chosen everything for my baby shower, I try to talk to her clear whenever she tries to tell me how I will rise my son . No matter if she support us financially, that's her decision to do it. No matter if she is buying things for the baby or the baby shower. The baby is mine . My husband defend her a lot, but I got his mind clear that she is controller and overprotective which we don't want our son to be dealing with so he at least don't tell me anything when I put her in her place. Try kindly tell her you're the mother and although you're grateful for everything she does she can't choose all the stuff for you, you both have different likes and nobody told her what to do with her son or choice for her anything. If you don't let her clear how it is you won't feel happy . And talk to your husband about it . Sorry for the length