So you pick out a shirt for you son. He refuses to wear it so you put it on him and his kicks and screams...

You can do this! One day, one moment at a time. Take some time for yourself, maybe ask for help so you can have just an hour to yourself. It'll do wonders.

thank you @junesmommy15

@indigenousmommy, it really is. May the power be with you!!!

@jensim82011 I get that. I try to do that as best as I can. Lately, I've been trying to potty train my almost 2 year old. I've also been dealing with my husbands sister, she's 16, that ran away and their parents can't get through to her. And CPS has a safety plan to where she can't be around her mom so she's with me more often then not. it has just been stressful.. I've been doing my best, trying to stay calm but I literally feel like I'm about to explode.

I'm 7 months pregnant and so stressed out I get migraines on a daily basis. I'm trying. I'm trying my ass off.

You're the parent. You don't have to be upset but let him know he's wearing the shirt you picked. There's no real reason for a child to through a tantrum because he doesn't want to wear a certain shirt. If you let him put the one he wants on he'll feel like he got his way this time. To be a little different, next time ask him do he want to wear this shirt or something. I don't think a child should ever be rewarded after they've behaved badly. Next time he can pick his own shirt out. Right now he needs to wear the one you picked. It'd be different if he just calmly asked to wear another one but to through a fit, no.

at @boogersbugsanddirt its understandable getting tired of constant misbehavior. just communication is important with young children to understand. simply telling this cus I said, wont settle them. what they tell us in class is to look out for good behavior n reward it. say he does something he usually doesnt, reward him n he will be likely to do it again. then his attention night shift from getting attention from misbehavior to good behavior.

Nice, it's so hard to have patience with a screaming 4 yr old. I practice it daily with my son who's 4. Props to you!

@indigenousmommy, but I told him if he's calm and stops screaming at me we can talk about picking another shirt. so he did, we talked, he picked his shirt.

@indigenousmommy, I get that, I do. but when he is already been giving me a hard time all day, the least of my worries is his shirt. it's not a big deal if he picks out what he wants to wear but screaming at me that that's not what he wants and yelling he doesn't get to pick then getting violent. I'm not going to allow him to pick anything in that moment of time.

he didn't say can I pick? no he screamed at me it doesn't have sleeves and I'm not going to be screamed at.

Sounds like he just wants some control over something, I don't see why it would be a problem to let him choose what he wears. Let him pick and tell him that's his responsibility from now on. Kids thrive when they can have choices and some control over their routines.

@jensim82011, thank you. I waited until he calmed down to talk to him. honestly, I'm waiting for him to put his socks on now that he's done crying and I'll let him pick his shirt. I just gave him that shirt because it was the first one I saw but I'm not going to let him pick what he when he freaks out on me.

he has been telling me what a horrible mother I am all week. and that he hates me and doesn't want to be here anymore. honestly, I'm doing my best here but I just can't reward bad behavior.

then if hes no longer kicking or screaming n corporates by talking to u then I would reward his good behavior by letting him pick a different shirt. if he doesnt then I would tell him y he needs that shirt n if he doesnt calm down I would give him a warning, then time out etc.

he doesn't like it because it doesn't have sleeves. @jensim82011

in child development they say to talk about it ask him why he doesnt like his shirt and have him explain his feelings etc. bt if he continues I would just tell him I know wearing the shirt makes you mad but u cant be naked, and keep him with that shirt on lol

the one U gave him