So apparently my mother in law has decided I can't post that I'm pregnant until she is ready to "explain" it to her friends....I just don't know how to handle it. I want to respect her and make this as easy on her since she is being so supportive and thinks her friends will judge her because my wife and I clearly used a donor. How can I help her feel accepted and still not let her walk all over me?
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Thank you :) my wife and I are so happy! And our friends and family that know are too :) she's just worried about others hurting my feelings because she loves me, I just wish she didn't care as much about what other people think(we got pregnant through ivf and she finds it hard to explain)
there will always be negative reactions regaurdless of when or how you tell certain people. some people will never be happy! but congratulations! just remember, once all the "announcing" is over with, that's the last time you'll ever have to deal with reactions. and even still, the way anyone decides to react is on THEM. don't let anyone's negativity kill YOUR vibe (: you've got this!
I told her the same thing and she is really supportive and I think just doesn't want her friends and coworkers to react negatively and it rain on our joy
your pregnancy isn't about her, at all. it's absolutely ridiculous that she would say such a thing. she should be happy for you guys. she shouldn't be worried about having to explain shit to anyone. especially people that are irrelevant.
just tell her you respect her and everything but you want to be able yo post about your pregnancy
Congrats! The truth is, you cannot make her feel accepted no matter how hard you try. She has feelings & emotional reactions based on her beliefs about her friends. You and your wife can set loving boundaries with the intention of getting what you want. One way is to thank her for her concern and restate how excited you are about announcing when it feels best for you.