Would you be a bad person if you thought about abortion/adoption because, you don't want your baby to have the lifestyle…

No if I knew I couldn't provide my baby with a great life style I would totally do adoption

if you do either please choose adoption :) give someone who can't have a child the gift of life :) ❤prayers

it definitely doesnt make you a bad person in any way!

I was 18 when I got pregnant the first time and was 100% not ready. I was ready to be a mom but I didn't have a job, baby's father was in another city, didn't have a job, and I was living with my mom. I thought about adoption but it would hurt my heart to feel that baby growing inside me for 9 months then just give him/her away. so I decided that abortion was best. hardest decision of my life and even with this pregnancy I feel a little guilty for wanting them (I wanted my other baby too) and keeping them. it just depends on her situation. and what she thinks is best for her. best of luck to her an I hope she makes the best decision. certainly does not make her a bad person

No it's definitely your choice. But they both come with consequences. Abortion: (my definition it's basically murder) you could probably mess yourself up for when you are ready to have a child. Adoption: The child could either grow up understanding why you did it or they can grow up having a dislike for you like a "why would you do this to me" "you threw me away" type of dislike or attitude towards you. It's tough. 😕

it does not make u a bad person but please choose adoption if you must choose.....

@double_mommy, Thanks similar to my situation, no job.. Already on assistance.. Me and the baby's father don't get along, no help from him or support. I don't really want to bring her into a shattered family where it's only me, not being able to do everything she deserves. I'm just thinking about her and all of the questions she would ask me that I wouldn't have an answer to, and all of the things she would want that I can't give her.. 😔

No, you wouldn't be a bad person at all. My birth mother was in the same situation when she got pregnant with me. She decided to put me up for adoption and I grew up with an amazing, loving family that gave me an amazing life. I'm sure it was a terribly hard decision for her, but I am thankful every day of my life that she made it. It was the best thing she ever could have done for me. I don't know if that helps you at all, but I figured an insider perspective couldn't hurt.

@dja, I get that I was completely against abortions.. I hate them but my main thought is can I really do this? Do the baby really deserve this lifestyle... If I was to keep her she may even hate me for all of the things I can't provide and all of the questions she would have that I wouldn't have an answer to.. Keeping her, adoption, and abortion either way I'm messed up. 😔

@mrssarahbeth, Did you ever build a relationship with her? Did you ever wonder why or did it ever make you sad? Do you have a relationship with her?

Adoption

and it won't mess up your body. you can still get pregnant and have kids later. I hated the idea of abortion at first too. and the people who hang out outside the clinic calling us whores and sinners don't help at all. have a talk with god about it and then make your decision.

There are tons of people out there that can't have children Taft would love to have one. I think adoption is always the best route to go for everyone

@lynnx1800, I talk to her sometimes, we're not super close but we stay in touch. My mom (adopted) was always very honest with me about where I came from and that my bio-mom gave me up because she loved me enough to want me in the best home possible, so I was never sad about it, I always thought I was extra special because I had someone make that kind of sacrifice for me. I think a lot depends on the adoptive parents and how they handle the situation, what they tell the child. I know my bio mom went through hundreds of applications before she landed on my parents as the right couple to adopt me.

And I know a girl that had an abortion and she had to go through serious counseling after and it really messed her up later.

I think at 26 wks you're past getting an abortion. Adoption doesn't make you a bad person, it makes you a completely selfless person doing what you think is best for your baby. Takes a strong woman to do that.

im sorry im not going to sugar coat anything but yes if you choose abortion especially how far along you are i consider that a bad person. i mean you already know its a girl . she has all her body parts and organs so its a person and that is murder! now adoption is completely okay. if you dont think you can handle it or if that is what is best then go for it. you can always do an open adoption. but please dont choose to kill your child because of problems with the father or just because you are afraid. things can always change! but if your child is taken away that cant be changed!

No, it doesn't make you a bad person. I think a lot of people have that question go through their heads. Just remember though, you're not without hope. And while single parenting is super hard, where there's a will there's a way. My best friend had a shitty BF, worked at Dairy Queen, and not a lot of support. Her son is 5 now and she's just bought a house, and has a new BF who treats her and her son right. So there IS a light at the end of the tunnel should you choose to keep baby, too. No matter what you choose, you'll receive no judgement from me. 💙

But personally I would keep her. That baby in your womb is so precious and she will only make your life perfect and complete. She's depending on you to take care of her. You can do this girl! I know a lot of single moms too that survived ❤️❤️ if you need to talk I'm here. 🎀💕💗💟

Well, in the US the latest you can get an abortion is 24 weeks, since you're about 27 weeks, you can't even consider abortion. I'm sorry you're having a hard time.

Here's what is says about abortion in the US.

I'm sorry to keep blowing up your post lol but there are pregnancy care centers all over the place. They give you free baby clothes, diapers, anything you need for your baby 💕

you should look into adoption

so many people can't have kids so giving it up for adoption would be an amazing gift to those parents and your child

I 110% agree with @bianca_rose. And you're going to have a really hard time finding a clinic that will even do it as far along as you are, and if you do find someone that will do it, I can almost promise that there will be complications. I understand you're going through some serious stuff right now, but that baby deserves a chance to live a full life whether it's with you or an adoptive family. If you're not up to raising her, there are plenty of families that will. And there are so many options out there with that to where you could be as involved as you wanted. That's the beauty of choosing who adopts your child. Just please think about it before you do anything that can harm yourself or that baby.