Ladies, I need your opinion. I have been trying to determine a name for my little princess now for the past 6 months ...…
Ladies, I need your opinion. I have been trying to determine a name for my little princess now for the past 6 months ... I have a few that I really love .... however .... my soon to be ex husband (who cheated and up and left, deciding he didn't want a wife or family, when I was about 2.5 months pregnant) feels like he has a right to help pick out a name, and hates everything I pick out. He really isn't going to be much of a part of her life being that he lives in VA and the kids and I are in NY .... (plus all he cares about is racking up notches on his bedpost) and doesn't even call our boys. Everyone in my support system believe that he has no say in picking out a name being that he hasn't and won't be there when she is born ... but I feel bad, and I feel like it's still his kid and I should allow him to take part in as much as he wants to be a part of. What do you ladies think?
Brittany·
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If I was you I would just go with a name you like. If he isn't going to be there when she's born or be in her life very much then why should he get a say so? @sarahdd16
missing74user·
Girl. DO NOT make the same mistake I made. Do NOT givr him a say. Don't even give the baby his last name if you can help it. I mean, its your choice but if you will be divorced by that point, I'd give her your maiden name. He was the douche who decided to leave and cut ties with his family, HE GETS NO SAY! Don't for a minute feel bad for him. His loss. Too bad, so sad. There's too many guys like that in the world. Someday, you will find your Prince Charming like I did. He's out there, waiting, looking for you. I know thats probably the last thing on your mind, but just wanted to offer some encouragement to the situation because I have been right where you are. Hugs xo
jenny·
Мама подростка, беременна (33 нед.)
You feel bad ? Really? Name your daughter what ever you want. Sounds like he made his choice already.
Valerie·
If you give him a say in the name process, he's going to think he has a say with whatever with your child! Do NOT do it!
missing74user·
P.S. You and your boys are freaking beautiful. You deserve better @sarahdd16 and I hope you realize that.
Sarah·
Мама двоих (4 года, 8 лет), ждёт третьего
See and I agree, I just feel so guilty not letting him help decide. (idk why being he has no remorse for his own actions lol. )
missing74user·
you will come to regret it if you do give him a say so....once he loses control, your life will finally become your own.
Jill·
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hey mama!, I'm sorry your going through some thing like that, that's a tough one! Only thing I'd like to say, is don't let what others say influence you too much! Listen to your heart and do what feels right. Only you can determine that!
Sarah·
Мама двоих (4 года, 8 лет), ждёт третьего
@sarahemccormick, thanks girl!! I have been struggling with this ... I have thought about giving her my last name, but then, I don't want her to have a diff name from our other kids. it's so overwhelming! you don't realize all the crap that goes along with along broken family and a divorce! and I really hope I'll meet someone one day, although with 3 kids it'll be a little difficult lol.
Sarah·
Мама двоих (4 года, 8 лет), ждёт третьего
I've always let him have the control and say ... and I don't know why I still let him ... part of me still loves him and but I know deep down all of us are better off, he wasn't a very good person .... he changed a lot over the years.
Sarah·
Мама двоих (4 года, 8 лет), ждёт третьего
@jillmichelle, it's hard when ur heart says one thing and your head says another!! lol. this whole being an adult thing is really sucky sometimes haha.
missing31user·
Мама сына (3 года), беременна (40 нед.)
if it was me, I'd name her whatever I wanted. but if it's really important to you that he has some sort of say, on the off chance he is in her life, I would give him a list of names you pick and tell him to pick his favorite one from the list and none others then leave it at that. if you want to give her the name he chooses from the list then there ya go, you gave him a say lol. but if you don't then it's still your choice especially if he's not even there when she's born
Lakeney·
Мама троих детей, ждёт четвёртого
if it was me I'd name her what I liked he's not there he doesn't care in my opinion
Sarah·
Мама двоих (4 года, 8 лет), ждёт третьего
@crunchymomma, that is a really good idea!!! maybe I'll try that and see how well that goes over!
Shelby·
If you really want his input then pick out like three you really love and let him choose from the ones YOU like. If he's not happy with that compromise. Then fuck it.
Sarah·
Мама двоих (4 года, 8 лет), ждёт третьего
thank you ladies for the feedback! I was worried about what others would think as well if they knew I'd chose the baby's name without him, but I feel much more confident and comfortable having the ultimate say in what her name will be. I appreciate all the support!
Jen·
Мама подростка, беременна (25 нед.)
If it were me, the baby would get his last name solely for the reasoning of sharing it with her siblings. He didn't want her when he decided to sleep outside his marriage, he doesn't get to go back on that decision. But I somewhat agree with @crunchymomma that you pick at MOST three names he can choose from that you like. And then if he doesn't pick your number one choice, be like well you had input, you just lost. #sorrynotsorry. However, you decided whatever it is you want to do love 😘
Sarah·
Мама двоих (4 года, 8 лет), ждёт третьего
@jennerfay, I agree 100% with the last name thing. I would like all my children to have the same last name (unless of course I got married and some how they talked me into having another baby which I don't see happening lol) ... and I'm pretty sure I'm gonna take yalls advice with the first name as well. at least it's offering him the opportunity to help.