But Waylin is only 3 months old and he's our first one. So i couldn't even imagine having 2 and not getting any help. Usually when I need a minute to collect myself I just put bubby in Michael's arms and I say his diaper is clean, he's been fed, he's not hurt, just hold him and bond for a minute. And I don't even give him a chance to say no! As soon as I give bub to him and tell him those things I walk into another room and collect myself for a few minutes. Weather I paint my nails, or fold some laundry, or hop in a shower, shoot sometimes I'll even walk outside to smoke a cigarette. But it's definitely important to have some "me time" even if all you're doing is folding laundry by yourself!

But as soon as I get Waylin to sleep at night I put him in his bassinet in our bedroom and crawl in bed with him. We only get a couple hours to cuddle/fall asleep together, but that's cherished time to us!

Lol okay good! Haha and I totally get that. Michael is a truck driver and so he leaves at 3:30am and gets home at about 6-7pm every day. The only day he has off is Sunday so we have weird sleeping schedules too!

@emmataylor, he works third so we sleep at different times.. we do still do the thing that made me a mamma tho lol

Like... Ever? Even just sleeping or like "sleeeeeeppiiinnngg" the way y'all became a momma and daddy? Lol

we don't sleep together...

I would tell him how you're feeling! Tell him how overwhelming it all is! He may not jump right in and say "Waddya need me to do?" But he will either stay up past 10 to help, or he'll be sleeping on the couch that night. Let him know you're serious! I used to take Waylin, my almost 3 month old out to the living room and pull his bassinet up beside the couch and pass out there with him. Michael would complain about us not coming to bed and I explained. Why should I? I won't get any sleep because when he wakes up I'm the one getting up with him. If he's hungry, I feed him. If he's got a nasty diaper, I change it. If he wants his binky, I give it to him. There's too many I's in that sentence and no we's. So either "we" start doing things or "I'm" gonna pack my shit and really do it on my own.

I like that @emmataylor its hard because I'm taking care of ours and his daughter he gets her at 7:30am and is asleep by 10am leaving me to do everything either overnight or until 3pm when her mother comes

Mine used to be like this too. He goes to work and comes home and just sits there. Meanwhile, I take care of the baby, the house work, the bills, the dog, the yard, have dinner done by the time he gets home, pack his lunches, make his boss brownies every other saturday, it was stressful. So I gave him an ultimatum. Either you get off your ass and help me, or I'll find someone who will. Simple as that.

@mskx14, that's a terrible mindset to have... I don't get why some men don't understand that being a full time mom is hard and we need a break sometimes to...

he thinks because he works and I stay home I should deal with house and kids on my own and if he happens to help with either I should be greatful... @nikolaismommy

Hang in there! You should consider talking to your husband about sharing the load. You didn't get pregnant on your own so he needs to get his stuff together and help you. I'm sorry you're going through a rough time. if yu need someone to talk to I'm here!