reassurance, communication and more reassurance

Well one thing he has to get over it or learn to deal. I finally did when my now fiancé said if I accuse him all the time like I was eventually im going to push him away or push him to cheat. People get tired of the past getting thrown in their face and he may as well go ahead and do what I keep accusing him of. It really made me think and then be started accusing me now I see what he meant. I've always told him I'll never cheat I would just leave him. You can't be made to pay for your past for the rest of your life its no kind of life to live. Let him know you understand his concern but it needs to stop. That kind of stuff will ruin even the best relationships.

@daisybird, I really don't mind a little jealousy, it actually kinda is a turn on to me lol but there's a fine line between jealousy and controlling and being insecure...I mean...somethings got to give! and @34466 I left my fiancé 4 yrs ago bc of...let's just say, "issues" and I met someone else. well, THAT was a huge mistake bc that mofo made my life miserable. So I left that guy and my fiance took me back thank god and he's been afraid off an on since then that I'm gonna leave him again and I've told him, all I can do is make it up to you an prove to u that I'm never gonna leave u again as long as that shit doesn't happen again...all it's gonna take, is time. And that's all we've had in 4 years is fuckin time and I think I've done damn good at proving I'm not going nowhere its just... all n his fuckin head i guess. and there's really not much more I can do or say to make him realize that his insecurities are ridiculous!

I have been back and forth with mine for around 10 years. We have been back together and living together for almost 3 years now. He's the same way accuses me of cheating all the time. It's ridiculous I couldn't be more of an open book. He messed up earlier on and now is convinced I will do it to him. We have 3 kids one his one mine and one ours. And now twins on the way. I told him normally when people do this its because they have a guilty conscience. So he needs to stop one because it's ridiculous and be knows better and that its very unattractive to act like that. He HATES when I flip it on him and say oh is that your gf texting you or anything. He gets so mad and I tell him that's how he sounds when he says his stupid comments to me.