How Am I Living With My Child's Father & He Don't Even Know If He Wants To Be With Me Anymore. The Past 3 Weeks Has Been…

You're not stupid. Things happen and people get scared. Have you tried talking to him or counseling?

@angiebebe I mean I've been trying and trying to talk to him get no answers besides I don't know what to day or give me time . and he says he don't know about counseling . I want it to work I don't want our daughter growing up with her parents separated or without one of us I had to and its not easy at all.

I understand, but also remember that you can't force it because you won't be happy and you can really screw up your child. but I'd also be firm and demand answers. he needs to be honest instead of "I don't know" because that's immature. you need to do it soon because if not, you'll be stressed and you don't want your baby to be around that because she'll be wired for stress for the rest of her life. demand answers and think if your daughters future happiness.

@angiebebe you are so right thank you so much

no problem. I went thru it with my daughters dad. but I was the one who didn't know what to do. I loved him, but we weren't working out. I thought I had to stay with him in order to be "normal" and because we had a child together. but, I soon realized that in order to be happy with myself, I had to leave him. he's a good person and an excellent dad, but we weren't as compatible toward the end.

@angiebebe oh thanks for sharing & separating just may be the best thank you So much Goodnight

you're welcome. remember that your child happiness is most important! good night hun.

sounds like he needs some relationship revamping. what i suggest is writing him a very intimate letter. in that letter tell him why he is the best dad ever and why you are so happy with him. then go into more intament details. tell him what things he does that get you excited both sexual on not sexual. tell him why you think he is handsome and and normally if you add something "nauty" in there that really helps them lol. then leave this letter in his lunch bag or what have you so he will read it while he is gone that way he wants to come home to you and can't wait to see you. the next step is to then follow through with him. if he wants to be intament do it be fun exciting explorative. don't hold back and be energetic. if you give him honor and respect he will give you the love you need. if you want to make it work try everything you can. I child needs both parents. channel what brought you 2 together in the first place and rekindle that love.

@tater4414 I really wish it was that simple he don't know if he wants to even be with me anymore because I messed up an broke His trust about 8 months ago . I know I want our daughter to have her family together. I want us to be together I love him with everything in me. but I don't want to keep sitting around looking dumb waiting for him and Hus decision.

well tell him that. look dumb as long as you have to for you and the child's sake. love doesn't heal over night it takes time and effort. show him you want to be with him and you will do anything it takes to stay with him. be fully committed and willing to show him how committed you are. give him the respect he craves and honor he deserves and he won't turn away from you. everyday ask him if there is something special he would like done and do it. everyday look for something you can do that will show him you care. and everyday tell him you love him and make sure he gets the idea that you love him