Okay this is going to kinda of be a crazy rant. It might not make sense at all. But I do need to rant due to the fact I…
Okay this is going to kinda of be a crazy rant. It might not make sense at all. But I do need to rant due to the fact I haven't told my family yet. I'm 17, And when I found out I was pregnant. I did want an abortion. I asked my bf and sister to take me. But they flipped out and made a huge intervention about it. (Which I am grateful for. My little pumpkin gives me a reason.) I thought everything was going good. But my boyfriend didn't show up at the doctor appointment today! Which made me sad, But I understand he had to work. Well so call "work!!!" My friend saw him at the mall with a bunch of friends. I had to hear my baby's heartbeat all alone. And that was a moment I wanted to share with someone!! I don't understand. He stopped me from getting an abortion. But barley acts like he gives a damn. I'm currently in San Antonio right now. But I'm moving to Houston. Which is were my sister lives. Now is when it gets confusing and I seem like a bad person. Two years ago I met this guys my sister is friends with, And fell hardd. He did to. But didn't want to do anything due to my age. Recently we just got in touch. And he's offered to buy the baby's crib and nursery. He's been so sweet to me. And shown so much care, When my boyfriend hasn't. He knows I'm still in a relationship. And understands I can't do anything right now because I am with BF. But It's just insane. I haven't told my mom yet either. I said that I'm going to college in Houston! And left it at that. Which I know is sooo horrible. But I just want to do what I think is best. I want my baby to know their dad. But I don't want to be in a unhappy relationship. I know this was long! Thank you for reading it!!!
Angela·
Oh girl, be straight up. That's the best way to save your own emotional health.
susanna713·
being in a happy and healthy relationship or happy and healthy while single is what your child needs to see. an unhappy and/or unhealthy relationship is no good for anyone- not you, not your partner, and not your child. if it's important for your baby's dad to be in its life, then make sure you end on good terms and keep the dad around. but you don't need to stay with him for your child's sake. your baby will be just fine as long as he/she has a stable parent who loves them and ideally a whole community of people who do!
Amanda·
Мама двоих (4 года, 7 лет), ждёт третьего
maybe ur boyfriend wasn't really ready to be a dad. but this other guy is. the stress is not good for u that ur boyfriend is putting up through. so just ask him if he wants to be with u and the baby. sorry he is doing this to u.
Alanis·
Мама сына-младенца, беременна (22 нед.)
I agree with @akla202 I mean, this guy seems like he's able to step in. Talk to him and ask him if he wants to be with you and the baby. It doesn't take DNA to be a dad. I'd rather have my baby grow up with an unbiological dad who shows him love and care rather than a biological dad who doesn't pay attention to him.
Amanda·
Мама двоих (4 года, 7 лет), ждёт третьего
yes @aidensmommy I agree with you to.
Jordin·
You don't need to be with him in order for the two of you to be active in the child's life. It sounds to me like you dig this other guy, and you wouldn't feel that way if you have such strong feelings for your current bf.. As for your parents they will know eventually.. Everything is expensive I'm assuming your on the insurance so they will know as soon as a bill comes.. It's better for them to know and be able to help.
Shawna·
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you haven't told your mom? she could be the best support you have
Tara !·
Thank you guys. This guy definitely is showing interest. He said he wanted to be there next doctor visit. It all just happened so fast. I mean last week my bf was talking about getting !married, then he's barley there. I guess I do need to figure out what makes me happiest and stick with it. @may_mommytobe I'm on my own medicare so that won't be a problem. I plan on telling her after I get settled in a job and four-five months along. I really do think your right thought. I found myself questioning if I even still love him anymore. @bugandstomachebug She's very religious and definitely would've removed me from the house hold. I'm hoping once I get settled over there and able to get everything rolling it'll be better for her
Shawna·
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@taraortiz9922teenmom, o well I hope everything works out for you and like everyone else said just cause he's the father does not mean you need to stick around and be unhappy
Tara !·
Thank you I do appreciate this all. I guess I just needed a push to know what to do! ❤❤❤ @bugandstomachebug
ian022316·
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Just be straight up with your mom, I thought the same about my parents getting upset and kicking me out of the house, but now???? my mom is soooo happy, and my dad he doesn't show it bit he is really excited for their first grandchild! I remember I was so nervous telling my family, I told my mom and my sister first, a week later my husband and I spike to my dad, and yes it was scary he did get upset, he cried, but now he is the happiest and can't wait to meet baby. Stay strong! I know you will find a way to tell them, the longer you wait you might even upset them more!