***IN SERIOUS NEED OF GOOD ADVICE*** Ok so I'm with this guy, Corey , who I am pregnant by as well. We've been together going on 2 yrs in November. Anyways, I am almost 23 weeks pregnant and I have been doing thru some crazy Shit in my head lately. Like, love this man but I spend most of my time bickering and arguing with him. EVERYTHING is an argument. I just really don't want to be with someone I have to argue with everyday. So I start thinking about having him leave and seeing other people but then I think, I don't want him with other people abd I really don't want to be with other people....I just don't want to be with him lol he doesn't give me the affection I crave...we argue....he's selfish....he is constantly buying shit we don't need...all the time...he hasn't bought anything for our baby....doesn't put any time into giving even just ideas for the nursery...Idk I just don't think he thinks or worries about anything or anyone besides himself. Now, are all these feelings coming from my hormones or are they legit feelings? Should I have him leave and start seeing other ppl? HELP!!!! :'(
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I've talked to him about it, or tried to at least @nerdmamatn ....I don't think he's actually listening cuz he never remembers ANYTHING I tell him. @missyowl92 , he has felt the baby move....didn't seem excited at all. . my main thing isn't that he won't love her.....it's the financial part really .....I don't think he realizes exactly how expensive babies are. @mamamills , we're supposed to be going out to dinner tonight.... probably Wendy's lol we don't have sex....and it's not cuz of morning sickness or me even! it's him .....Idk
Communication is really important right now! Let him know how you feel! Also, men really don't get super involved until the baby actually comes out. My boyfriend hasn't been involved in nursery planning or getting baby insurance or the hospital or anything. Not because he doesn't want to, but because he doesn't really know what to do or what will work best. If you feel like you aren't in love with him maybe try to go do something romantic? Spark the fire a little bit 🔥
Guys handle pregnancy a bit differently, has he gotten a chance to feel the baby or see your belly move? Have you talked to him about how you truly feel and try to work it out? If you haven't done that then I'd try that first. If you have and he still doesn't seem to care then idk if it's worth it.
have you just recently started arguing since your pregnancy? you have to consider it might just be your hormones and could go back to normal after. and also alot of guys aren't as interested in the nursery and all that stuff as we are. I know my fiance isn't, but they're still excited for the baby! deep down. they just don't show it the way we do!! I'd wait until after the baby is here and then see how he is. he could change once he realizes its all real!
have you spoken with him about any of this? maybe if you guys talked first and then go from whatever happens with that.
then maybe it's come down to the flat out tell him part. this needs to change or so and so will happen. maybe he needs a wake up call.