Normal? I Don't want to share baby

Thank you ? enjoy the praise ? xx

Chelsea that's funny, you've just made me see things on the lighter side lol I'm going to try and chill xx

It's so frustrating when baby cries and people don't hand them back! Even if it's not for a feed. I just take him back I don't care how moody it makes me look. Hopefully you start to feel better soon. If family over stay I just tell them! My MIL is awful for "just popping in" I now ignore the door even if the dog barks and say I was napping ?

See if they out stayed their welcome I'd be like do 1!and expected me to make em a drink!i don't think you should care Bout what people think I'm a minority in this post obvs ? but the fact of the matter is it is your baby at the end of the day you do what makes you happy and keeps you happy x

I really wouldn't mind if people popped in for a cuddle for 10'minutes but I've had literally no peace and they stay for hours lol, no one came today after hubby told them we wanted family time and i feel so much better I'm breast feeding as well and when he cries they weren't passing him back to me to feed without me basically taking him back off them then I looked like a moody cow x

I'd say no to be honest but then again I'm laid back as a parent..I actually like visitors you get presents and praise ? you have that little baby 24/7 all your life now so what's the harm in people having a hold for 10 minutes..If no one lets me hold their baby when it's born I don't let them hold mine ? I did it with Paisley a couple of people acted like their baby was Jesus or something and never offered a cuddle with them so when I had Paisley I didn't let them hold her ????? but each to their own to be fair x

I have felt that way with all 5 of mine and know what i will be the same when no.6 is born, it's only really my hubby i don't mind holding them, even now when my older kids stay at grandparents i don't entirely trust them(the grandparents), my main issue in the early days is the fact that visitors feel even when new baby is asleep that it's okay to just pick them up without asking, i get so annoyed as it means that they selfishly wake them up and i don't get a rest as only mummy can really soothe baby in those really early days. Showed my hubby this thread just to prove I'm not the only "headcase" as he has previously called me lol xx

I'm already feeling protective against my MIL as i know she's going to be a nightmare (overbearing as it is, first time grandma, advice just flows from her mouth like a constant leaky tap) - I'm all prepared for mumma bear mode to tell her to back off. Hubby won't like it but I can blame it on hormones. I just feel so protective already.

I'm the same with all mine as new born although I suffer infertility so I didn't wanted to share. It's such early days. Also I found it better for the kids to get use to new baby before everyone comes around and are all over the new baby. Xx

I let all my family and hubby's mum and gran come to the hospital, I ended up with mil here every day, he is only 9 days old and haven't had a day of no visitors yet well today no one is coming at all, hubby is not letting anyone in, my family have been really good they ask first. If you really don't want people visiting tell them now you want some time as a family to bond and adjust to new baby first and you will let them know when you are ready xx

Thanks ladies I'm glad I'm not the only one was starting to think I was weird haha I really wish I didn't feel like this though, my lovely hubby has text everyone to tell them we want no visitors for a while I think after a traumatic birth and not getting much sleep hasn't helped, so nice family time no one bothering us will help xx

i feel like this already and his not even here yet..? in my head i'm not going to let anyone hold him or feed him etc.. i have no idea why i feel like this either as wasn't like it with my other two! dunno if it's because i know his my last xx

I was the same! I felt really anxious if anyone else had her. It got better over time though, now at two I can't wait to hand her over ?

My baby's 8 days old and I'm like this but only only with my partners family I hate them holding him it get anxiety and avoid going round there! Even when my partner holds him I panic incase something happens x

I'm like this with my LO i don't mind if it's on my terms and I pass her to someone but I don't like it when someone takes her off me or picks her up and she's 5 months I think I have real bad anxiety which is causing this xxx

I've never had pnd but I've been like this with both my boys, I think it's perfectly normal, animals are the same, it's your mothering instinct to protect your baby, that's why you don't mind your hubby holding him, personally I don't like all and sundry coming round and holding my newborn, my main reason is the fear of spreading germs lol xx

I was completely the same, I hated anyone touching the twins and we had TONNES of visitors. I just wanted to hold them both at all times xx

I was the same! It used to make me so anxious at times I fought back tears! My OH's mum never gave me her when she cried either and tried to soothe her and that tipped me over the edges, I remember saying sternly 'she is a week old and needs her mother' and just taking her! She got a lot better and now that she's 1 so am I! X

I was the same with ella when she was a baby, i remember being on a day out with all my ohs family and they were all passing her around and all i thought was get off my baby please put her down etc it made me all anxious and i had to pretend i needed the toilet before i actually said something really rude what i knew id regret later. Im fine now shes older but i hated anyone holding her to x

I felt like this with both my boys I actually took him back from my oh mom as she snatched him away from me. I then had a massive rant in the next room he was 2 days old. Fair to say she hasn't done it again he's 4 ??

I don't want to feel like other people can't enjoy him and I do feel horrible for even thinking like this I'll speak to the midwife tomorrow when she comes thank you Hun xx

It can be normal, but can also be a sign of pnd. Which after all you've been through and knowing you won't have more could be likely. Speak with your midwife/dr or hv they may help you find ways of coping with others being near him. Xx