so my sons father just posted a picture of his new girlfriend kissing my son. i dont know how to feel about this.

I am mother of my own and of my step kids personally I don't think it's ok because I need to know where this relationship is going you're not going to have her one minute around my child and the next minute it's another thot now if it's a permanent relationship ok lets sit down meet and talk who are you what are your intentions for my child and being in his life I like it like that bc that way you guys can both be on the same page with her being around the baby and it's nice she's showing him love

😱 Is she nice to him? Are they stable? Idk how I would feel either. Maybe I'd be ok if she was a decent person.

My step son bent over my fiances arm and kiss me right Infront of his mom. Like I said, just talk to them about boundaries and what you find reasonable

dont feel bad. if u can help it. it goes against our instincts to have another woman being maternal with our children. but the reality is that whoever is in love with ur ex...should in a healthy relationship love ur child too. so try to only worry for thing that are unhealthy for your child. having oics and being loved upon arent bad things. hugzies.

When we met, we set ground rules. She said pictures were fine just none professionally until we're officially married, no calling him son, and if we have problems to go to her and I respect them all. We respect eachother as mother/step mother and her husband respects my fiancé as step father/father. The best way to think of it is one day if you and the father are not together, they're gonna have a separate family. (If it's different girls every month that's one thing though) they will have a whole other side of love and support. If your child needs support or help and they aren't with you, that's when the step mom comes in and we don't mean to take your place or betray you as mother, it's just an instinct. I can't speak for every female but like I said previous, just my experience. Before getting upset over his gf showing love for your child, think about as a father it would feel for your s/o to show love to your child. Would it be called for? I suggest talk to them and set boundaries and talk about comfort zones and work from there.

Idk about posting pictures,that's like ...:/ not ok

@M amadev, I agree. We've had custody of my husbands 11yr old since she's been 3!! I love her like my own. Plus you should be happy that they are treating the child right.

@M amadev, I agree. We've had custody of my husbands 11yr old since she's been 3!! I love her like my own. Plus you should be happy that they are treating the child right.

I'd be upset too but it's actually good to know that she cares for him. Some ladies would ignore or even abuse the child. You should talk to her, so you know who you're son is with.

I'll be going off on them @emmiebabie

It's one thing that she cares about him, yeah that's sweet and all, but I honestly think she has no right to be kissing him nor posting pictures. I believe that is strictly families privilege. But again, just MY opinion. I couldn't deal with that I'd flipshit

I would definitely have to agree with @mamadev

Oh no, I'd go crazy.

Coming from a step mother POV we don't do it to do it and to make you feel upset. We show love and interest into a child of our significant other because it's a whole other part of them to love. Trust me girl, it's great that she is showing positive interest into your child.