well a little confused... my BD is getting a paternity leave and will be here around thanks giving to meet his daughter…

yeah thats true its a huge step and I would like for things to change and for us to know eachother better before thaking that step @littlelady

I would say stay with your family. If he wants to be a part of her life He'll make the effort and visit as much as he can. Moving in together is a big thing. If there are/have been issues between y'all before they'll only get worse if they aren't worked out before moving in together. I would say give yourself time to think it through and weigh out the benefits of both.

Yeah I guess and I was always mad bc he didn't want her but I guess he's changed bc since she was born and he saw her hes been trying to see her as much as he can and also bc I think he regrets not being there for us + she looks exacly like him lol @steph11

well poo. that's a tough spot. I'd try it for 2 weeks to a month then decide that way you can get to know each other a bit more. I'm glad he wants to do it though that shows something

ah ok yeah I guess we will talk a lil more ab it when he arrives I did told him he had to be sure of wanting to be with us he said he did do and im more scared just bc we dk eachother that well @steph11

I live in central NY. that's the only base I could think of I live close to Rome. I didn't know if you'd been there before. font be afraid of change its part of being a family

omg lol how u knew !! I love it in Fort Drum I lived there for 6 1/2 years :) but its true the weather is too much we barely had summers supposedly this years its gonna be the worst winter but yeah I just dont know I do wanna try it im a lil bit afraid bc ive never lived with someone so.its gonna be a big change @steph11

yeah I think I will try that @reaganmommy2015 thank you hopefully it works out

is he at Fort drum? upstate new York is rough when you don't have family around and if he's at Fort drum you don't wanna be up there in the winter. it's rough. the idea of giving it a test run is a super great idea

Maybe you can try and visit with him for a month so you can see how it is over there with him but still live with your parents