My husband actually doesn't want a baby shower. He doesn't want people to feel like we cannot support our own child hence need to throw a shower. This isn't to bash on other mommies!! I know you can support your babies! It just how my husband thinks. I'd love to have a baby shower just to have everyone come together and celebrate the life we'll bring into this world. Like you, my mom wants to buy some of the major things. In my religion, we do have a party 40days after the baby is born. That I will be doing as religious obligations. You can use the money to buy what you need.

It's totally up to you. I chose not to have one with this baby and everyone thinks I'm weird, but it's what we wanted.