Officially took off my ring and have changed all things attached to him. Now just to get my next check and get out of…

That is extremely frustrating! I wish you all the best through this and the best for your little ones. Message me if you ever need to talk.

@varduim,

He doesnt talk. He has no communication skills especially when it comes to problems. He was never raised to express his feelings which fucking sucks!

Yeah I see how that would be awkward. I lived with my in laws for a few years, and so I can imagine. Maybe you can wait until after you deliver, it might be easier for you. Esp since you are now able to get help from his mom. Although I can see why you would just want to get out of there. Have you and him sat down & talked about the current stage of your relationship, and where he expects it to go acting the way he is?

Basically thats what he's done. I mean he hasnt said anything or told me. But he hasn't been here. The thing is we live with his parents so yeah I feel seriously freaking weird. My MIL helps me a lot since I was put on bed rest but idk i just feel very awkward. @varduim I'm seriously lost, idk if I want to leave he has never told me to leave or that he doesn't want to be with me. But I jumped to the conclusion myself.

Is there any way that maybe he will leave and let you stay there? ?

No I don't thats part of the reason I've stayed for so long. I've looked into shelters, but there are none within 30 minutes of me and I'd basically have to take my 3 kids out of school. Which I really don't want to do. Hopefully it get's better and when I leave I can be happier. @varduim

11 years is better than than 12. It IS on him to be a father, but you're a good mom to be concerned about that. Your children will appreciate what you do for them, and it's not good for them to see the way your relationship is now either. I just hope he will grow up and take responsibility for your kids at least. Do you have somewhere you can go, or family/friends who can help you?

Youre exactly right. Too bad it's taken me the last 11 years to see the true man he chooses to be. Just sucks that my kids wont have their dad with them there every step of the way, but I cant force him to be a father that's on him. @varduim

You are right about that. I'm sorry for what you're going through, esp during pregnancy. You are basically doing it on your own now. So at least you won't have the added stress of him behing gone, once you're out of there. Maybe it will give him a reality check when he realizes you and your children have left. And if not, at least you wouldn't have wasted any more time on someone that didn't deserve it.

I honestly havent even talked to him since Saturday and seen him since last Thursday. I'm pretty much just giving up on my own. I can't be the only one putting effort in while he does whatever the hell he wants! We have kids to raise and a new baby on the way. Either he is going to be there or he's not and I'm pretty sure of his choice based on his actions. @varduim

Will it be a mutual decision with your bf or husband, or are you running away?

I'm honestly the farthest from strong. It's going to take alot from me to seriously go through with it, but knowing my daughter will be here within the next 3 weeks. I'm seriously ready to just get up and leave with her and our other kids to hopefully start a better life! @varduim

You sound very strong. I hope it's the best decision for you and your baby.

@monilovesautumn,

Ive hoped and prayed on it for a long time now, but for some reason I've allowed myself to stay knowing nothing has changed! I've come to the end and finally seen the light. I can't take it anymore!

sorry hun. hope things gets better. 💕