do what you feel in your heart.

@catehughes, when I was 19 I gave up my son for adoption. An open adoption. He has never been confused about who his parents are. I am simply his birth mother. It was the best decision for him and for me. Please don't speak of things you know nothing about. It is a very personal decision, that only the birth mother can decide.

@nathanswifey7, If That's The Best Decision For you. Then I Agree 100% .. You have to do what's best for your family.. Wish u the best.. 😘😍

Don't let anyone sway your decision, only you know what's best for you and your baby!

and thank you to all with considerate comments! I just want whats best for our baby. Its certainly not what we want.

And she said she may not she was! If her situation changes I'm sure she's not going to choose adoption. If it's not what you would do so be it. It's already a tough decision don't make her feel worse. Instead look up some resources and provide links. That may be helpful

I seriously cannot believe how incredibly rude some of you moms are being. This app is supposed to be an outlet and we are all supposed to support each other. She is doing what she believes is right for her baby. You have no idea what it's like to be in her shoes. I'm seriously disgusted at some of your comments. GROW UP!

Do what's best for you and the baby. You're making a hard selfless decision if it's needed and I admire you for that because some people let their children suffer without putting the child's needs first.

@catehughes, I lost my job due to being pregnant. My husband lost his due to no transportation. I have a phone and wifi because Im sitting at a friends house at the moment who is kind enough to let me use it. I NEVER ask for help. I never ask for pitty. I could care less about either. I just put this out there because preggie is my only way of release with people who are understanding and some that think the same way I do. You can look down on whoever, but you know NOTHING about anyone and downing someone when you have no idea how they got where they are QUITE FRANKLY isnt your place. If you would be the mom to live homeless with your child, you do that. I wont. This baby means more to me than any individual EVER COULD. My husband and I have been married since 7/12/13. And I dont want to ship HER off because motherhood is hard. I want her to have a good family who can love, care, and spoil her like I cant. Before judging, why dont you ASK how/why someone chooses why they do. If I can help it, MY BABY WILL BE WITH ME. At least Im smart enough to see that at the moment, Im not a healthy environment for a baby. APPARENTLY, youre one of those who rely on everyone else to get by. Dont do a damn thing on your own. Run home to mommy and daddy? Oh, I guess I figured that instead of knowing. Doesnt feel good to have someone judge you without them knowing anything does it? Seems to me people are quick to judge. When youre family honestly couldnt give 2 shits and you have no where to run when youve sold your last item for food, THATS WHEN YOU UNDERSTAND.

thank u thats one of my points ppl make a big deal about oh ur horrible dont have an abortion, its better to put baby up for adoption . n not that she wants to shes being criticized!? wtf ppl r never happy! so fuk them do u

over all it is your choice. a shelter would be the best option for you and your husband plus your unborn baby. give it a little time to see how things play out. maybe you'll get back on your feet and be ready but only time will tell. I'm not going to tell you what to do but ask you to give it sometime.

least she's not getting an abortion. Dont be so mean ladies it solves nothing

@queenquee, I would agree...but she has a phone and a wifi signal or internet somehow...plus she's married. All things that cost money. You can get a job and her husband can get one. They can get government assistance. If she WANTED to help herself and her family SHE COULD. I can't seriously support anyone just giving up. "Oh poor me, life was too hard." If she didn't want the baby I really can't see why she'd even have an account here. These women planned for their child, at least sacrificed for them. At 16 weeks she's ready to ship him off because motherhood isn't easy. Just my opinion. Just how I feel. Everyone sees the world through different eyes.

Don't mind these close minded women , do what you think is best for your baby. Adoption isn't a crime , a lot of people adopt and choose adoption. Adoption is a better choice to make than abortion or struggling and not being able to take care of her baby. Do what you think you need to do! I got your back girl!

@catehughes, I agree with what u are saying. (U SACRIFICE FOR YOUR FAMILY) But, if u have nothing. Literally NOTHiNG then what can she do ? adoption is the last choice u should make and u can tell she trying. the story u just told the woman had a job. had somewhere to stay to hidr her baby. what she gone do raise the baby outside ? no.

then that's when the state is going to come into her life and either way her baby will be took. if she have no other choice adoption could be the best thing for her right now.

Yeah why is everyone getting judgemental?@nathanswifey7 if you think adoption is right I support you! I totally understand why you would want that, if your homeless how are you going to feed you your husband and baby, don't let all this negative rude comments get to you, geez hate how people replied to This

@nathanswifey7, a woman gave birth to a little girl at 16. The father got deployed to war before he knew she was pregnant. Her mother brought couples to the house after her daughter was born to talk about adopting the little girl. The young woman moved out, basically homeless with a baby. She put a play pin in the back of the kitchen at the diner she worked at as a waitress for some time. She raised her and didn't let one soul tell her she couldn't do it. I can honestly say I wouldn't have been the same person and neither would she have been if she let someone tell her she couldn't be a mom because she was too young or too broke or homeless. Like I said, you sacrifice for your children and for your family.

@catehughes, so youd have a baby living on the river side? sounds a bit more heartless than what Im deciding.@queenquee, no one has the money but if we get there they have a camper that theyre willing to let us stay in.

Im just left with no other options. and for those who say open adoption is cruel NO its not. Would you want your son/daughter finding out at 16/17 that they are adopted and searching for you with no clues at all? Im ok without that thought.

I know you don't want the ba y to be in a shelter. but , it doesn't have to be . you are 15w right now you have a while to go before the baby is born. by that time you can go to a shelter and they can set you up for transitional housing. it take up to 3 months maybe even sooner but at least you know when the baby is born it will be going to its own home. at least in a shelter you can nourish yourself , clean yourself and they will make sure you have prenatal care . research the ones in your area don't just assume the worse. things can get better you just have to believe and seek help . good luck to you

I like how people are being so judgmental... Girl do what's best for you and your baby! I support you!

@nathanswifey7, hope everything works out the way u want! its ultimately ur decision n ur the one going through it so dont make anyone make u feel bad about it. u do wat u feel u have too

Open adoption? You do know there's no such thing. It's not fair to the 'parents' and the child will grow up confused. You sacrifice for your baby...if you're married you should know something about sacrifice! How could you go on with your marriage knowing someone else is raising your first born? Sounds more like you don't want a harder life. Life is hard, you do what you can. Adoption is for someone with no options...and normally you don't learn anything from it and regret it.

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@nathanswifey7, y'all trying to get to Georgia. y'all family want help ? it has to be other choices other than adoption.. Send y'all some money or something to get down there.

Hope things get better

at peace? never. it kills me to decide this. But I cant live with the thought that I had my baby and took it "home" to a shelter. My husband and I are trying to get to Georgia to family but no luck :/

praying that you're able to make a decision that you are at peace with!

id regret putting my baby ina shelter more than giving it a good healthy home :/ I cant rely on my own selfishness. If things dont go uphill and us get on our feet by the time this baby is here Im considering an open adoption :/

Go in to a shelter plzzz ur gonna regret giving it baby away I have friends young then u that did that they regret it just saying

they have shelters for mommies and babies

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