So is his plan to be absent during my pregnancy and then pop up and wanna do something when my baby is born? I sure hope…

@queeneden,

A bunch of grown boys walking around claiming to be "men". I'm all about supporting each other. We as women have it hard enough already, we all need to rally around and support.

oh goodness. I wish the best for you mama. boys suck. -.- its sad when they dont know how to grow up

@may24th, I don't even know if his parents know I exist and we live around the corner from each other. SMH I read something about filing for abandonment or something if they've been absent for the pregnancy and some time after birth. I'll have to research that some more because I refuse to reward a man who deserves the complete opposite and definitely not with MY child.

@trezelle, Absolutely. We have to stick together. Build each other up. I support it.

I only know its his plan because his mother. I dont speak to him. I havent heard from him since I was 12 weeks and he got a new gf. he thinks my son isnt his, but yet the last I heard when I have my son he wants to take me to court for dna testing and partial custody. his mom also thinks I should let him and her be at the hospital. I pissed his mom off recently cause I wont let her do his talking for him anymore. I cant stand either of them. -.- it should be against the law. or they just need to make it where if baby daddy isnt around during the pregnancy they cant all of a sudden want custody.

Yes we do!! Let's say in contact. We have some of the same goals and I believe we can help each orher

@trezelle, We got this. 💪

Girl I agree!!! That's EXACTLY where I am. Girl everything you said is what I'm working on. I've been so busy with work and all the other crazy stuff going, I'm trying to focus on building me up now. I've been dragged and broken so many times that now I'm building myself as a fort.

@trezelle, At this point, that's exactly where I am. I want my own everything, house, money, debt free, etc. before I attempt another relationship. And focusing on building a business and getting these things together has taken my mind off of what my flesh wants when it comes to a relationship. Thankfully, God doesn't give up on us and He is forever by our side. He has a plan, we just have to do our part and stop getting distracted by these wolves. Woooo, this conversation helped me out today.

"One day at a time sweet Jesus is my favorite song." I sing it every morning. I really wish I can change a lot about my life but all you can do is roll with the punches and punch back when it's time. I don't think I'm going to date for a long time. I feel like I attract the wrong men in my life.. So I'm just going to take time out and work on myself.

@trezelle, Unfortunately we are all dealt our hand in life and have to play it no matter what. I wish I could change the two men I've had children by, but I'm forced to deal with the situations I've created. One thing is for sure, my children will not repeat my mistakes. I'm open and honest with them and refuse to allow them to go through this if I can. One day at a time is all we can do.

That's exactly what I am doing! Since we live 3 hrs apart, I use to go see him on weekends when I didn't have work. When my boss told me I had to work some weekends (her dad died, she had to travel to go to te funeral).. He started acting even worst. I couldn't take it so I broke up with him. He has accused me of cheating, questioning if the baby is his and asking me to have an abortion. Seriously it's been tough! Sigh I never wanted my life to be like this but that's what I et for being careless. I'll lie my baby none the less though

@trezelle, Sounds like the same guy I'm dealing with. The most you can do is have peace knowing that God chose you for this baby and that was not a mistake. These men are screwed up in the head and we made the mistake of fooling with them anyway. Our babies are gifts and are completely innocent in all of this. Your only job is to love and protect that baby. Note to self.

Ladies I'm in a similar situation. It's so hard going through this alone... I keep saying my life wasn't suppose to be like this... I feel like no one around me truly understands. I broke up with my child's father because I couldn't handle his insecurities, controlling attitude and his immaturity. He is a good guy but just not good for me..

@may24th, I don't even know his plan because we never talk. There should be a law against this crap they try to pull.

thats my baby daddys plan. -.-

Yeah I wish the same thing , it's easier to deal without the stressful assholes in our lives @queeneden

@alainalovesmommy, mine has simply disappeared after we broke up. I saw him once when I was in the hospital and he texted me a week later to be a jerk again. Since then, nothing. I really would like the peace of knowing he's made a permanent exit from my life, but it's a lingering stress in the back of mind that he'll pop up giving me hell. I hate this.

Guys are jerks , mine tried half way through then gave up saying it's my fault for the break up , I can't have mine in the delivery room because of how much stress he has brought me my doctor saw how high my pulse went he hasn't tried to contact me only to ask when he can take my daughter I was what the hell it doesn't work like that . you'll be strong and get through anything

@alainalovesmommy, it gives me anxiety to think of the possibilities. He's a world class jerk and really gave me nothing but stress and hell and then disappeared. If he tries to be active after she's born, I don't know how I'll handle it.

I know that feeling