Would you let your children get their hair colored at a young age? When I was a kid my parents were very strict, I couldn’t do anything with my hair or get piercings until I was 18 & out the house. I don’t think I’ll do the same with my kids.
Transgender children So I just learned that in my kids school district (my kids aren't in school yet my oldest will be starting kindergarten next September) there are twin boys who identify as girls. They are 5 years old. What's your opinions on this matter given they are 5!!! I don't believe that at that age they really understand the whole thing. So the entire school had to take a course on how to handle transgender children. For example they can't say girls go this or boys do that. What are your thoughts on the matter? Do u think the parents are behind this? Idk because I haven't met the parents or children. I just think at 5 it's very young for children to really understand. What do u ladies think?
My husband and I aren’t exactly strangers when it comes to relationship challenges 💞. We have been together for 14 years and married for eight, so we’ve definitely gone through some growing pains as we navigated a long-distance relationship in college and our first year living together as a married 👫 couple. But nothing has challenged our relationship quite like our first year as 👪 parents . Before you have your first child, you have these grand ideas of what it will be like. There’s more sleep, less hormones, and a lot more magical bliss than the reality. I’ll admit, I was guilty of these delusions myself. I knew it would be difficult, but I figured once that “mom instinct” kicked in, I would be golden. Thus, I spent my pregnancy in a state of ignorant bliss, with little thought about what this was all going to mean for my most important relationship: my marriage. Then my baby arrived and with her came the realization that life as I knew it, for better and for worse, had come to a screeching halt. I realized that I knew absolutely NOTHING about being a parent and even less about how to be a wife in the midst of it. I was stepping into this new role that didn’t seem to fit, while also dealing with a whirlwind of postpartum emotions and serious sleep deprivation. I cried almost every day and spent a good chunk of my waking hours feeling bitter and resentful toward my husband regarding my unmet (unexpressed) expectations. There were so many great moments 🎉 sprinkled throughout that first year of my daughter’s life, but plenty of hard moments, too. Finally, right around her first birthday, I found my stride. I remember telling my husband that I finally felt “normal” again. That first year certainly was a doozy. But looking back, I’m able to see things that helped us get through it as well as things we could have done better. ✅ Communicate your needs — early and often. This is the biggest and most important survival tip I can share with new parents. Many of the relationship challenges between my husband and I during that first year of parenthood were the result of one or both of us feeling resentful over unmet expectations. The problem was, we hadn’t really discussed what those expectations were. This will look different for every family, but it might be something like “I really need you to be in charge of bedtime routines” or “I would really like 10 minutes to decompress when I get home from work by myself, before I jump in and tackle baby duties.” Everyone’s needs are different, but being open about them can alleviate some of the stress in your relationship. Once I started expressing my needs and my husband started helping me meet them, I was able to let go of my bitterness. Because really, how fair is it to harbor resentment toward someone for something they don’t even realize they’re doing (or not doing)? ✅ Let go of expectations. One of the hardest parts of new parenthood is the slew of expectations that we go in with. We all have an idea of what parenting is going to look like and inevitably, it always ends up being different from the reality in some way or another. Here’s the thing: all babies are different with different needs. Same goes for parents. Letting go of the expectations you have for your baby and your partner and being open to something different, but probably just as effective, can help your relationship so much. My husband may tackle bedtime or playtime in a much differently than I do, but it doesn’t mean it’s wrong. Parenting is a team effort, and everyone on a team brings their own unique skill set. Embrace it, and try to go with the flow as much as possible — which as a Type-A person myself, I realize may seem like a lot to ask, but you can do it! Need relationship and parenting advice? Find mom and moms-to-be like you. Chat and share advice about motherhood and family life. Download the free Preggie app now. ✅ Don’t try to do it all yourself. Sometimes parents (moms especially) feel like the weight of the world is on their shoulders. I remember feeling like I had to do everything perfectly all the time. I was exhausted and frustrated and thus, a real bear to be around. Once I started delegating things to other people and letting my husband (as well as friends and family) take things off my plate, I was a much happier mama, wife, and person in general. ✅ Schedule in “me time,” “you time,” and “together time.” It’s really easy to become completely wrapped up in your beautiful baby, but it’s equally important to devote time for yourself and your relationship. It can be something as simple as asking your partner to take over nap duty so you can run out for a quick coffee or even just take a shower — and be sure to extend the same courtesy back to them. I think this was hard for me because I was home with our daughter all day while my husband was at work, so I often found myself feeling like he had already had a break all day at work. But just because his tasks were different than mine didn’t mean he didn’t get tired and worn down, too. We both needed breaks apart and together. Some people like to schedule weekly, bi-weekly, or even just monthly date nights. If that’s not feasible, just getting out of the house and doing something fun together with your little one can change things up and keep your relationship fun. Head out apple picking together and plop the baby in a carrier. Try out a new restaurant during baby’s nap-on-the-go. These set-aside times can make a huge difference for your relationship. ✅ Express gratitude. A little thank you goes a long way toward making partners feel loved and valued. As a new mom, I often felt overworked and unappreciated in the hundreds of tiny tasks I completed each day. The act of my husband simply saying, “Thank you for taking such good care of our daughter every day. I appreciate you.” made all the difference in the world for my hormonal, new-mom psyche. And moms, don’t forget to appreciate your partner as well! I know it went a long way with my husband when I would thank him for working hard at the office for us all day. ✅ Check in regularly. Communicate, communicate, communicate! Just because you discussed your needs with your partner once, doesn’t mean that’s the end of it. Checking in regularly to let each other know your needs and what challenges you are experiencing is really important for a healthy relationship, not to mention a parenting partnership. ✅ Laugh about it. Laughter really is the best medicine. Sometimes parenting is just going to feel a little bit ridiculous, and that’s OK, normal even. Laugh about it together and remember that tomorrow is always a new day. By by Lauren Hartmann, оriginally published on Babble
Yesterday I went out with my boyfriend went to watch a movie, me and him don't live together yet. but point is yesterday when he was dropping me off his like sleep over at my house witch the mom and dad lives. I said no, his response was why is everyone deciding or making choices for you and their going to do the same with the baby, when I know that's not true. what he thinks is that my mom tells me not to sleep over. So he left all mad. and I felt in my heart that he went on and cheated on me and did something else with an other girl.... and it's 10:51 am now and he hasn't texted me at all. and after he dropped me off I texted him saying what I felt and nothing. I don't know if I'm over reacting or what or what should i do. do i wait until he text me?
Dusti·
im secretly worried about this to ... my boyfriend did anything he wanted to .... when he was younger his mom kicked him out at 12 and his family reallly has no home training all junkies .. me on the other hand was strict.. grades and all i still got ass whoopins in high school for my grades...
Kayleigh·
i was always always grounded for something. and my husbands family..... the eldest wouldnt.even get a swat on the hand for hurting her younger siblings, the next one is a pervert and should have been in and out of jail and his mother favors him, my husband actually did have some time in jail and rehab, and his younger sister spends hundreds of dollars that are her parents a month.... money they dont have i might add. and they just let my husbands nephews run wild.
mommy3rmz·
Мама двоих (1 год, 3 года), ждёт третьего
mine is different my husband had a strict mom i had strict parents but im softer in letting my girls do stuff like candy n juice n stuff before eating n husbands gets mad n is like no u eat first then sweets but i understand where hes ckming from because my dad was like that too my only fear is i never truly was a daddygirl for the samw reason so far my girls adore their dad but i hope when they become teens they dont think we r super strict u know what they say strict parents make sneekier kids :/