Сестра бросила детей: стоит ли мне их забрать?
It’s venting time lol
Need to get this off my chest or I be cussing out my own sister
My sister abandoned her children (aging from 17-5). She told me, she doesn’t want them and want them all to leave. No, these kids have nowhere to go and the fathers of these children so have a place for them and others dont.
I stepped in to help the kids. The oldest child was trying to drop out of school and so I talked to the child and we made an agreement to continue school under my care. My sister agreed to allow me to take over the education part and whatever I needed she will give. Well, when I contacted her to give birth certificate and other documents she refused and then lied. I cooked the kids food and dropped it off so they can have food for the week. She’s made I didn’t give her anything.
Both my nephews are in gangs and she don’t come home to her kids. So the boys have their friends at the house. In and out the house all night. They do drugs in the house with the younger kids there.
CPS was called before by the school and neighbors and nothing happened.
I feel like beating her down to be honest. I feel a buildup of hate towards her but I want to be a better example for my kids and hers. I’m looking into getting a bigger house to take her kids ( not the two boys, I’m not about that life). Do yall think I should?
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@mazzarella, having that talk will help make the right decision. I like the idea of helping out on the sidelines; eating and school.
@sourpatchkids, literally my husband said he’ll no
He’s going to contact the fathers today and physically drop off their kids.
@mazzarella, I’m with hubby on that. Hoping the best of luck!
I personally wouldn’t take my sisters kids. Her oldest is currently in foster care yea it sucks but my sister is psycho path that doesn’t respect boundaries. I could see her showing up whenever the hell she wanted cause I have her kid.
This is also a good point. The worrisome of the toxic person coming in and out of your life and peace.
If you really feel like there’s safety concerns or neglect you can go file emergency custody.
I do not know how to even answer. It depends on your situation and what you can handle/provide for them, but as for your sister (because I can relate to shitty abandonment firsthand) fock her lies and do not trust anything she has to say or do. She lost the respect as soon as she stopped caring and ultimately abandoning them. Do what you can or get the right sources to save and help the children. This situation is awful.
In my situation I would never speak to my own sibling again if he/she decided to just do such a thing with no damn care. Obviously the kids were already in bad situations with drugs and gangs so this was not an overnight neglect.
I am truly sorry😮💨
This is going to damage them through adulthood, sadly.
@icebergahead, @wellabean0413, @sourpatchkids,
I spoke to an attorney to weigh all options. He said he wouldn’t do it because not knowing how deep the damage the kids are in mentally. Deal with that plus my own family is going to break me. He suggested to contact my other siblings and relatives and tell them the truth. He said if I do decide to go this route. I can file a petition of kinship. The court will reward me monthly payments to help take care of them and help with other resources for them. But he said I need the kids birth certificates etc, I know my sister not going to give me that.
So, I guess I just make sure they eat and go to school. Have my oldest son and husband help out here and there.
Oh and I talked to our mom about it and she doesn’t want anything to do with the whole situation