Thank you I really appreciate! 😃

I am sorry that you had to go through that hell but I am glad that you were able to leave that toxic relationship!

This guy is a real piece of work to deal with. Everything started to slowly go downhill when I was pregnant with our daughter back in 2019. He started seeing me less and I believed that he was working over time. He claimed that he wanted to save up money for the baby. I never saw a penny of that overtime money for the baby. I figured it out. The reason why he worked over time was because there was a new girl that was “hot” that he had his eyes on. He missed all the ultra sound appointments and finding out her gender. After she was born, when I came back home from the hospital, he didn’t see us for about a month and a half. I suspect that he was seeing someone but I didn’t have solid proof and he tried to make me believe that nothing was going on so I tried to move past it and believed his stupid excuses. Then once the pandemic hit that’s when everything got worse and that’s when I started noticing his temper. He moved in with me and my family around March 2020. He took it out on me because of his job, politics, he got heated with me over the news even when I didn’t share my opinion about it he just snapped at me. He stopped having sex with me for like 6 months that time because he was constantly watching pornography on his phone which he lied about but I saw the google history 😂. He was messed up because I was fat that time and insecure I guess he couldn’t be bothered with me but funny enough, once I had a tummy tuck the following year and lost weight since 2021, then he got insecure and worried that I am trying to look good for other men smh. Fast forward to this year when he lied about having a female coworker. He came home one day from work with a cold sore on his lip that he never had before and all of a sudden got it from work either from his female coworker or a women he met somewhere while at work on the street. He tried to downplay it and called me crazy multiple times while changing the story constantly. I’m so glad that I didn’t sleep with him for a few months now because he knows what he could have picked up from these women at work. He does construction and everyone at his job knows that he has a family. Shame on him and his female coworkers. They deserve each other now. One day I believe they will have drama at work when their relationship fails and either she will start sleeping with another guy or him with someone else and they will fight like cats at work lol. I would never mix work with romance because that will not end well. 😬 It might work for some people but definitely not him lol. He is a ticking time bomb. The same way he was very jealous of me he will be like that with her and any future women in his life.

@bigfatpigswithakingkong wow. What an ass. I'm so sorry mama. Shame on him for doing that to you and your new baby. I'm so heartbroken for you. Atleast you found out so you can move on now and not waste anymore time on him.

@heatherlou88, I hope I can move on soon and that it doesn’t take me a year or more. 😩

There are some days when I feel better but then other days I am a crying mess and then I get angry when I think of how he has cheated on me and belittles me. He definitely messed with my mind. Thank god that I didn’t marry him. We spoke about it in the past and we almost planned it but I was the one that put it off and said let’s wait for the future. He asked me when I was pregnant back in 2019 but I felt uncomfortable because when he married his ex wife years ago, they got married when she was pregnant so I told him that I didn’t want to do the same thing he went through where he said that he felt “obligated”

to do it. The thing is he never asked me after that and then that’s when things got bad. Once he moved here during the pandemic, that’s when I saw his true colors. It’s just crazy that the first 2 years he acted like a loving caring bf even though there were a few red flags but nothing that stood out to me.

He had an ex gf that was crazy and she showed up to his job once within the first month or two of our relationship. She tried to confront me to fight me. That actually turned me off when I saw her but silly me tried to give him the benefit of the doubt because I had to deal with a stalker back in high school so I tried to understand what he was going through. I found out recently from one of his old friends that he never broke up with her when he claimed he did a year before he met me. He forgave her and gave her a chance. I figured out that they must have still been going out when I came into his life and he must have dumped her that day, that’s why she showed up to his job angry. Even though she is toxic and has problems I also feel bad for her when I think of how he must have treated her. She didn’t deserve that. It’s just crazy that now I find this out 6 years later instead of the beginning when I could have walked away smh. I am glad though that I didn’t walk away because I had my daughter but I wasted all these years on this guy.