Как защитить ребенка от непристойных разговоров в школе?
I need advice. I swear having multiple kids means it’s never ending situations. So my son is in 4th grade and is in a contained behavioral classroom. The class is 3rd,4th,5th combined. It’s like 9 boys and 1 girl. One of the students we can call him G was in my sons virtual class when my son was in 2nd grade, this was a contained class also. At the start of this school year my son told me that G told him he wanted to suck his dick and asked my son does he like boys. I had a talk with my son when that happened and I brought it up during a meeting with his principal and teacher. Yesterday my son tells me that G continues to be gross and told him yesterday he wants to suck his dick, he told him to act like a girl and be inappropriate. my son said he told him this at lunch and he doesn’t understand how the teacher assistances didn’t hear because they were at the table and they must be deaf and have no ears because they only hear when my son is being bad but nobody else. He told me he told G to act like he’s shutting up and stop talking to him. He told me that G calls him daddy, will mess with his hair (elijah has long hair) and he said last week G slapped his butt in the library. He also told me that he moans in his and other boys ears. I spoke to his teacher last night and she told me that there was a issue with G bothering another student and she spoke to his parent. She has heard him say some of these things but thought since speaking to the parent it had stopped. She said she had switched his seat from the other student in that situation. I told her I’m very uncomfortable with my son now being around this student. Even if they don’t sit together I’m not okay with this. I’m also concerned that this child is being abused/exposed to this and I want the proper people to get involved and make sure he is okay, It’s a very thin line because if he is being abuse/exposed I don’t want him to feel like he’s an outcast in his class and with friends because he’s separated from them but he can not do what he is doing. His teacher said she was going to talk to the other child’s parent, she said she had to talk to someone in the school because she wasn’t sure exactly how to handle the situation because she’s never dealt with this. Should I contact the principal or let her handle it ? I told my son to avoid this child at all costs. If he comes to sit near him, get up and move. If he tries to ply with him at recess, move or go to the teacher. If he has to use the bathroom and this kid is in the bathroom, leave. I don’t want my son exposed to this or touched. This child has already exposed my son to things he shouldn’t be exposed to and again has touched him and I’m not okay with this. As a parent how do I handle this?
Pork Chop ·
We had similar situation but on the bus. First I was told “boys will be boys” 😡
Keep calling. Call everyone you can that will listen. The school did nothing for us, when they spoke to the other child’s parents it got worse for my son. I ended up calling the superintendent.
BakingDaddy ·
Set up a meeting with the teacher and principal. Teachers are mandated reporters. If she doesn’t know how to handle it, she needs the proper training. This is something that absolutely needs reporting, kids don’t just say and do this kind of stuff without learning it somewhere.
JWDx4 Momma🦈🦖🦄🧚♀️·
🤯🤯🤯 holly moly! I’m at a loss for words! This is unacceptable, I would keep emailing or calling until your sitting in front of that principal and teacher and have a solution. He shouldn’t even know what these acts are, way to young. Hopefully there is something done with this child and this get put to a screeching halt.
DragonTrainer1·
I would be down at the school asap requesting answers and they definitely should be reporting it to the right sources as teachers are mandated by law to report this
Bri·
Мама сына (2 года)
Tell the principal. They will probably get cps involved which is what needs to happen.
Heather·
Contact the principle and make yourself heard. This is very serious and they should be handling it appropriately but it doesn’t sound like they are. This child definitely needs an in home check asap!
Mandy·
Wow just wow. I'm so sorry for your son and this boy. Like you said he may be being abused. I would absolutely go above the teachers head. Call a meeting with the principal and school social worker asap. If nothing gets done then go to the police and file a report for the child slapping your son's butt. That will open up an investigation and certainly get the schools attention then. Do not let this go. Something is going on in this child's life to warrant this behavior. I would also reach out to the superintendent as well if this goes nowhere with the principal so they are aware that their staff needs more training. The teacher should absolutely know better, my first thought in this situation is not to call home at all 🙄
Stephanie·
I'm sorry for your son. This is so scary. I hope the principal helps, I agree, G needs appropriate help
M_🖤·
Contact the principal for sure, I agree G needs help and the school needs to do something, it may be verbal now but they should be concerned G may find a way to physically act on your son or another child. I hope they take the right steps to help this child and your son.
FairyKarmaMomma·
Мама сына (8 лет)
I think this is awful and is considered sexual harassment even in public schools. Is he in a contained ED class? If so, you might be dealing with a kid who was already sexually abused in their history and that’s why they’re there. That doesn’t mean the behaviors aren’t wrong because they are, but that means this class might not be a good fit because someone is acting inappropriate and predatory towards your son. Fortunately, he has an IEP which is a beautiful set of legal documents. Call an emergency meeting and insist the teacher, principal and the school psychologist are present. Everything will be recorded and made part of his file so there is a record that you’re reporting this happening to him on campus when in they’re care. These folks are also mandated reporters and they need to report this to the proper authorities and the other child’s family will need to be notified. He might be on meds that need to be adjusted because of the behaviors he’s exhibiting, he might need to be placed in intensive therapy because that’s very much sexual predator behavior that needs to be worked on before adulthood. We don’t know, but we do know there needs to be a major intervention for your child’s safety and possibly the safety of others.
I hope this is sorted out in a way that’s fair and safe for everyone involved.
Andy·
Мама троих детей
Holy crap. Yeah those people need to pay more attention of what's going on in school. I mean I know they got a job to do with teaching everything but there's got to be more to it with watching what other kids are doing to other kids. I kind of have this issue with my son too he's in special classes and some times he comes home saying the weirdest stuff. Like a few weeks ago he said did you onow some people eat whale sperm? I was like what the hell did you just say. And he says stuff about private parts that we don't say here so he definitely picked it up from school. He's also in a mixed class with other grades, I think it goes up to grade five. I don't even know what I would do if I was in your shoes if my kid told me some kids said this to him. I would be livid though