I would like to hear your thoughts everyone.
I'm here just thinking about all my blessings and how far I've come from leaving him with only $300 and a bag of documents my 2 kids some clothes and God! I know years pass but my mind goes back to that moment as if it was yesterday where I felt helpless and alone 3 years ago. But the messeges was yesterday.
Yesterday I went out with my boyfriend went to watch a movie, me and him don't live together yet. but point is yesterday when he was dropping me off his like sleep over at my house witch the mom and dad lives. I said no, his response was why is everyone deciding or making choices for you and their going to do the same with the baby, when I know that's not true. what he thinks is that my mom tells me not to sleep over. So he left all mad. and I felt in my heart that he went on and cheated on me and did something else with an other girl.... and it's 10:51 am now and he hasn't texted me at all. and after he dropped me off I texted him saying what I felt and nothing. I don't know if I'm over reacting or what or what should i do. do i wait until he text me?
I lost my son yesterday...
Question: 16 year old dating an q8 year old? Thoughts?? My opinion is hell no. 16 year old is still a kid. Kids now a days want to be grown so bad and be in adult relationships and situations. I know when my daughters are 16 and they tell me they are dating an 18 year old. I will surely flip my lid.
I been off my birth control pills since April this year
MamiB·
@vergeenya, rn
MamiB··
Idk how I commented this it must of been when my kiddos had the phone but I am in total agreement with @momx4, any communication you allow may lead to a bad situation and I definitely wouldn’t allow your daughter to talk to him anymore because you don’t want him to ever get to much information out of her about your whereabouts I’m so sorry you have to go through this he a perfect example of a abuser with the whole gaslighting he’s doing
vergi··
Мама двоих (3 года, 12 лет)
I wish with all my heart i can just hide myself and kids with no communication but there was no documented police report and so i have no physical proof but my words.
Mamabirdddd·
Please stop engaging with him. If you don’t respond then he won’t be able to say this stuff. You can block him. It’s not against any laws.
vergi··
Мама двоих (3 года, 12 лет)
yes he did now he is on the birth certificate
Mamabirdddd··
I mean that’s great so why’s he not paying?
vergi··
Мама двоих (3 года, 12 лет)
something with hra and because its dv
deleteduser·
That’s how abusers are. You’re the crazy one now. He’s fucking insane.
vergi··
Мама двоих (3 года, 12 лет)
I felt like he was making me believe he didnt do nothing but he did it!
deleteduser··
He’s gaslighting the fuck out of you and trying to make you feel crazy when you’re not. He’s a narcissist. Needs to go find something else to do with his time:
MamiB··
fr
vergi·
Мама двоих (3 года, 12 лет)
@mamiluna @wellabean0413 this is why i put this up because sometimes its hard to see the truth on my own when he is involved
deleteduser··
You did the right thing to do for you and your children. You did what most women have a hard time doing. Leaving your abuser can sometimes be much harder than people think. Abusers will isolate you from everyone and then when you want to leave you have nobody. You’re a great mother and you’re so strong. Fuck him. He’s crazy as hell.
vergi·
Мама двоих (3 года, 12 лет)
@wellabean0413 I used to watch my mom get beat by my dad for years !!!!! I didnt even know i was falling into the same circle until i was isolated and my mother was on his side all the way she kept telling me to give him a second change she lived with us and I told myself she is wrong he is tooo i am not gonna be like her
deleteduser··
these texts are part of proof. You going to a womens shelter is proof. Nobody’s gonna go to a homeless shelter for fun. Do you have texts with your family or friends telling them what happened? Did you make a police report?
vergi··
Мама двоих (3 года, 12 лет)
no report no texts of my friends only these texts and God !!!!
deleteduser··
do you have any photos?
mybabybear ·
Мама сына (7 лет)
Idk how you had the strength to talk to him. I have not talked to my abuser in 9 years and I cry and panic just thinking of the slightest possibility of even looking at his photo. I still go to therapy to heal over the whole thing. (Stated therapy almost 2 years ago)
I’m so proud of you for leaving.
vergi··
Мама двоих (3 года, 12 лет)
I have no choice there is no evidence of his abusive part and the court needs to see im putting effort for him to start a relationship with my daughter that sadly is his. I am doing it because i love my daughter and know that court has rules i have to follow i feel voiceless and my child i cant even protect her i love her so much i wish i went to tbe police i wish i can hold her in my arms and shield her from him forever
sherry S·
@vergeenya, I haven’t been on in a long time but,I remember your Courage it took to leave with your children &go to a Homeless shelter because,of his abuse you mentioned ! I’m sure the homeless shelter has paper work from your stay their with your children ! You don’t owe that piece of shit anything ! Not your time or your voice ! Did he care when his children were sleeping away from the home ? Did he provide food for them Still (because ,that’s what dads “moms”do is Provide ! Did he pay for healthcare or dr visits as parents should or school supplies /clothing???? Don’t let this piece of shit mind f**k you! I’m older and I am talking from experience ! Most women don’t leave and if they leave &go back You might not make it out again ! Get a lawyer if he wants anything to with his children ,the lawyer can request anger management/etc and even a Restraining order you can get yourself so he can’t contact you at all !
vergi··
Мама двоих (3 года, 12 лет)
Thank you for reminding me about the truth he really wasnt helpful acually in the middle of all the people death toll rising i asked him to help give me money for food and he told me to ask his laywer and i had to figure it all out on my own many woman do go back i seen it happen and it break my heart
sherry S·
I was a teen mom at 16 ,married at 18& divorced at 21 (promised myself I would never allow any man to ever verbally or physically abuse me ! not sure if u rem my story (how did he get back in contact with you ? Did you never change your number ? Children are very smart u may think they are too small to remember you being abused “better yourself as you have for them &yourself ! Has he seen them ? Did you get your own place ?
vergi··
Мама двоих (3 года, 12 лет)
I would like to also hear you story ! I am sorry i have not been on the app much lately pm me
sherry S··
I’m 43 yrs old now just came back on app myself was on for 4yrs or so ;) just keep focusing on you &your children as you’ve been doing . Don’t give in to his Manipulative ways / narcissistic ways
vergi··
Мама двоих (3 года, 12 лет)
thank you for your very wize and true words i agree with you 100%