Here’s my (probably) unpopular opinion:
People who are chronically late to everything drive me crazy. I completely understand that it happens.. but the people who make it a personality trait, like “omg you know me! I’m never on time!” drive me insane. It’s not cute, it’s extremely disrespectful. Like, why is my time less important than yours?
It’s one of my biggest pet peeves! If your never on time start planning better! We literally tell one of my brothers an early time to be places because they are ALWAYS late.
Agreed. I can't ever imagine showing up somewhere 15+ minutes late and expecting people not to be peeved
Yes! It is definitely a respect issue with me and I feel so bad if I’m ever the late one so I frequently overcompensate and spend a lot of time sitting in my car because I’m early. I hate the feeling of being late
My sister is always late but I don’t mind at all. I’m the opposite and always early. Maybe I should start telling her stuff starts like an hour before it does 😂
My older friend, she's in her 60's, she is always late to everything. But her medical condition causes it. Think it's ADD or ADHD. And probably something else. She will just continue to do stuff around her house and not put it off to leave. I even worked with her. Always late. Any time we did something together always late. Mostly by an hour or more. She was late to my wedding and showed up when everyone was leaving the after party
Fun fact. I recently learned they don't consider add its own diagnosis. It's all ADHD just different types. You can have type 1, type 2 or combined type. I learned that they don't use add as its own diagnosis when my daughter was diagnosed
I’m 90/95% with you, but I have a friend with various mental health disorders that really struggles with being on time and also people with adhd can struggle with the executive functioning skills necessary to get anywhere on time.
People that know that about themselves and act like it’s cute and funny do annoy me and I know people like that. But my friend with the mental illness is so embarrassed that she can’t seem to figure out “on-time” no matter how hard she tries.
Or they get extremely overwhelmed by everything they have to do and make the mistake of sitting down and don't do anything because they shut down!
I really wish people would research more on ADHD and not just follow the stereotypes
this exactly! And then cry because everything fell apart. It’s one extreme or the other
My daughter and husband definitely both struggle. I get annoyed because alot of people think ADHD only affects children. I can tell you that it still highly affects my husband.
They both have emotional dysregulation which is common with ADHD. While my husband's is more anger related , my daughter's is crying...but recently hers is becoming anger too. They also get told they just have anger issues 🙄
Ive thought about getting tested because my daughter is a literal mirror of me at her age.
I’m with you, girl. It’s sooooo disrespectful. For most people there is no justifiable reason for it other than they can’t possibly think of someone other than themselves.
Also, my wedding photographer told me that I was one of the only weddings EVER in his career to actually start on time. That’s how punctual and schedule-oriented I am. 💥
I tired this being the punctual person like I am… my own mother was late 30 minutes after the actual event. Remind you I even sent out invites with times... lol
That is me. If I'm not 5 minutes early and politely waiting in my car, then something has happened to me. Courtesty. It isn't difficult if someone has gone out of their way to include you in an event and you accepted.
I struggle hard with this I’m late everywhere and try not to be. I’m up with ample amount of time but again my ADHD makes me feel I have more time then I do. I get it’s not everyone cases but some people are actually trying their best it just doesn’t work for them like it does for you just food for thought 😉
While you managed to say the same thing in less words, than my dumbass, my thoughts EXACTLY girl! My comment had the same feel.
I knew you were my people! 🤗
I have ADD also, and an old boss screamed at me over my being late every day. Told me I was disrespectful, and wasting everybody’s time. That completely changed my tune. Now I have about four alarms set before any given time I have to leave. Now I’m chronically early, but for me, I would rather be early, set 25 alarms, and rush out of the house just to wait in my car than have somebody yell at me again.
Some of us have ADHD, OCD or in my case both, and it's quite literally something we CAN'T help. I legitimately try EVERY day. I get up before 4 every damn mornin and STILL will be late for a 9 am meeting! EVERY freakin time. My brain just doesn't construct time like a neurotypical person.
There is NOTHING more infuriating for me than someone saying "just get up earlier". 🙄 First, I don't think I CAN get up any damn earlier and TWO, having MORE time in the morning will only lead to me finding MORE things to do, making me MORE late.
A normal person will think hmmm, I got 10 minutes, I'm gonna eat real quick grab something and go.
I notice I have 10 minutes and think ooooh,, I'll make a poptart! I go to get the toaster outta the cabinet but when bending down notice the cats need food, go to get that and see the boys left their late night snack wrappers out, grab those, oh the trash needs to go out, reach under the cabinet for another trash bag, crap we're out, I better make a grocery list real fast, we need milk, bread, cereal, poptarts....oh YEAH, I wanted to eat a poptart....oh SHIT, WHAT TIME IS IT??!! We GOTTA go!! 🤯
Or something VERY similar EVERY day!
TRUST and BELIEVE it's JUST as frustrating for me and a HUGE insecurity that I just CAN'T ever "get it right", ESPECIALLY when such a deep seeded perfectionist. It's torturous. We don't wanna be this way, I PROMISE. I'll LITERALLY not sleep at night worryin over what or how that person felt by my bring late.
I WISH I could "just be on time" to avoid all that. 🥺
I am imagine I just got scared straight then.
I was diagnosed with ADD back in 2009, and then again only eight months ago.
I was consistently 10 minutes to 15 minutes late everywhere I went.
But then my boss sat me down and literally reamed my ass.
Went off on me about how disrespectful I was being. The others were waiting for me to get there in order for them to leave to go home, and I was pretty much just saying that my time was more important than theirs.
For whatever reason, I totally clicked.
Now I’m not saying it’s my ADD that made me late to begin with. Could’ve been that I was only 21 (at the time when I was yelled at) and genuinely just young and stupid.
But it scared me straight. Now I’m always 20 minutes early, and I sit in my car and wait.
(Edit to add: that being said, I understand that not everyone with ADD/ADHD is on the same level, or has the same issues. Yours might be Time management, where as mine probably is more keeping the house tidy. I’m definitely not trying to explain away!❤️)
But like I said in my main post, *there are valid reasons*, but the ones who make it a personality trait are the ones I can’t handle.
“You know me! 🤪” person walking into a function that started an hour ago, while wearing a shirt that says ‘always late but worth the wait’, ya know?
And I also think there is a huge difference between 10 minutes late versus over an hour.
As well as it’s different when you’re late to work chronically, versus just late dropping off your kids at grandmas house.
But I’m gonna change the subject for a sec, completely ignore it if this is uncomfortable, but, are you on any sort of medication for your ADD that you absolutely love?
I actually have an appointment on 7th of December to talk about getting myself medicated. And I’m walking blind. I have no idea what to ask.
Oh I've been yelled at more times than I can count. 😬
When I was first diagnosed I was put on Vyvanse but it made me feel weird. Now I take an extended release Adderall in the mornin and a lower dose instant release in the afternoon. It took a few months tryin to find the right one and dosage but helped a lot. I STILL can't be on time, but it's MUCH worse on the days I don't take my meds. 😬
My former sister-in-law thought it was cute to be late and would laugh. But we learned….we would tell her every family function actually started and hour earlier than it actually did. She started showing up just in time for the real function time! Lol
Am I the only one who gets super fucking annoyed seeing certain people comment on shit? Like I'm so thankful she blocked me because she drives me up a wall. 😣😣 Why hasn't Shaneen32 been banned like her last account was! Lmfao
What's annoying you at the moment?? Girls who blatantly claim, "I'm gonna use my looks to my advantage" really annoy me, and people who post political things on social media, also annoys me!
I’ve realized that people are always trying to get away from their husbands like oh u need a vacay away from my kids and husband ASAP Loll it’s funny bc to me a vacay IS with my husband we have so much fun together !! He’s like my bestie !
I guess people who talk to their pets are crazy : I say as I’m talking to Brownie and he is looking at me like maybe it’s in fact true after all 😂
Every time I eat I feel like I have something stuck in the back of my throat after. It's driving me insane
Robyn ·
Мама троих детей
I struggle hard with this I’m late everywhere and try not to be. I’m up with ample amount of time but again my ADHD makes me feel I have more time then I do. I get it’s not everyone cases but some people are actually trying their best it just doesn’t work for them like it does for you just food for thought 😉
Linden··
While you managed to say the same thing in less words, than my dumbass, my thoughts EXACTLY girl! My comment had the same feel.
I knew you were my people! 🤗
jenna tess··
I have ADD also, and an old boss screamed at me over my being late every day. Told me I was disrespectful, and wasting everybody’s time. That completely changed my tune. Now I have about four alarms set before any given time I have to leave. Now I’m chronically early, but for me, I would rather be early, set 25 alarms, and rush out of the house just to wait in my car than have somebody yell at me again.
Linden·
Some of us have ADHD, OCD or in my case both, and it's quite literally something we CAN'T help. I legitimately try EVERY day. I get up before 4 every damn mornin and STILL will be late for a 9 am meeting! EVERY freakin time. My brain just doesn't construct time like a neurotypical person.
There is NOTHING more infuriating for me than someone saying "just get up earlier". 🙄 First, I don't think I CAN get up any damn earlier and TWO, having MORE time in the morning will only lead to me finding MORE things to do, making me MORE late.
A normal person will think hmmm, I got 10 minutes, I'm gonna eat real quick grab something and go.
I notice I have 10 minutes and think ooooh,, I'll make a poptart! I go to get the toaster outta the cabinet but when bending down notice the cats need food, go to get that and see the boys left their late night snack wrappers out, grab those, oh the trash needs to go out, reach under the cabinet for another trash bag, crap we're out, I better make a grocery list real fast, we need milk, bread, cereal, poptarts....oh YEAH, I wanted to eat a poptart....oh SHIT, WHAT TIME IS IT??!! We GOTTA go!! 🤯
Or something VERY similar EVERY day!
TRUST and BELIEVE it's JUST as frustrating for me and a HUGE insecurity that I just CAN'T ever "get it right", ESPECIALLY when such a deep seeded perfectionist. It's torturous. We don't wanna be this way, I PROMISE. I'll LITERALLY not sleep at night worryin over what or how that person felt by my bring late.
I WISH I could "just be on time" to avoid all that. 🥺
kesha hicks··
Felt this hard! I also have really bad social anxiety so I have to fight through a panic attack every time I have to be around people.
Linden··
If you don't personally deal with it, you'd NEVER understand. People think we're just inconsiderate assholes when that's the FARTHEST thing from the truth. I LITERALLY will not sleep at night cause I'm replaying conversations, events and worrying about how something I've done or said effected someone else. I am DEEPLY considerate, that's NOT the problem.
kesha hicks··
@leonardsquared, yes! And I get it I know people who are just inconsiderate and have the when I show up I show up attitude but I feel like people assume all people who are late are like this. I have every intention of being on time. I tend to joke about it to cope with my anxiety about it. Then I sit there the whole time having anxiety about people being mad I’m late. It’s a mess lol. Just like people think I’m antisocial when in reality I’m just going over in my head what I’m going to say and if it’ll be taken the wrong way and by the time I have an answer together the conversation is over. 🤦🏾♀️
Linden··
🙌 It's FOR REAL a struggle. TRUST if we could just "be on time" that easily we would!
I'll have a whole ass plan the night before, set alarms on my phone to keep me on task...NOTHING helps! 🥺
kesha hicks··
@leonardsquared, no matter what I do I always end up rushing to be on time. I hate it and makes it worst when someone points out you’re always late. Because now I think they hate me. But it’s always nice when someone else gets it because for a sec. you don’t feel so bad.
Mama Coco··
Thank you for being open and honest about what it’s like for you. Conversations like this have really helped open my eyes on how ADHD, mental illness and anxiety can manifest. Most people just know the stereotype of those diagnoses and don’t understand the day-to-day of living with it.
Mama Coco··
@leonardsquared, @kesh-kesh,
Couldn’t tag you both in my comment for some reason
Linden··
EVERY single day girl, it's TERRIBLE.
NO ONE likes a morning of yellin, rushing and chaos. For most people, that would be the start of a bad day. How you think they'd feel if that was their EVERYDAY?? 🤔 BET they'd be a little more forgiving and not so hard on their fellow humans.
Linden··
Thank YOU for taking the time to actually try to understand! 🥰 That's MUCH more than most are willing to do! 😘
Linden··
🥰😘
kesha hicks··
thanks ❤️I use to be embarrassed by it but I’d rather share my truth in hopes someone else will feel a little less alone and misunderstood.
kesha hicks··
@leonardsquared, oh a lot of people would crack if they had to deal with it daily.
Luna_bear ··
This sounds frustrating! Maybe you could make a timeline and try to stick to it for the morning. Something like, 7:00- make coffee. 7:30- put the dishes away. 7:45- pack lunch, etc. Write it all out and put it on your fridge to help you
Robyn ··
Мама троих детей
I literally wake up at 3 I have all the time but I don’t ever have enough 😂
I have ten minutes and start a whole new project or clean something and then see ten more things to do.
Right and then I over compensate for being late and end up doing more
Robyn ··
Мама троих детей
@leonardsquared, this speaks to my soul
Uhhhh··
My husband has ADHD. It's either we are extremely early or we are late. Because we can't schedule more than one thing so when he's ready he's ready we have to go then we can't go do anything before and that makes us super early sometimes 😅.
He also has to have a ton of alarms to get the kids ready and on time for school.
Linden··
Oh I've tried that a MILLION times girl. I set whole ass alarms on my phone in an attempt to keep me on task.
The problem is, once that alarm goes off, I'll start negotiating with myself like, "Well the next one isn't going off for an hour and I KNOW I can do that in 30 minutes so I'll just keep doin this for a while. The problem is, I'll continue doing what I'm doing until it's PERFECT, and in my head it's only been 7 minutes when in reality, it's been 45. You see what I'm sayin??
kesha hicks··
same and we end up just laughing at our selfs because I’ve literally been up all day and nothing is done. Half of every chore is done 😂😂.
kesha hicks··
@leonardsquared, same but ones the alarm goes off and I go to do what it suppose to I get side tracked and forget what I was doing. I have 4 alarms just to get my kids to school on time everyday
Luna_bear ··
@leonardsquared gotcha. Ugh that's tough. And annoying I'm sure
jenna tess··
I am imagine I just got scared straight then.
I was diagnosed with ADD back in 2009, and then again only eight months ago.
I was consistently 10 minutes to 15 minutes late everywhere I went.
But then my boss sat me down and literally reamed my ass.
Went off on me about how disrespectful I was being. The others were waiting for me to get there in order for them to leave to go home, and I was pretty much just saying that my time was more important than theirs.
For whatever reason, I totally clicked.
Now I’m not saying it’s my ADD that made me late to begin with. Could’ve been that I was only 21 (at the time when I was yelled at) and genuinely just young and stupid.
But it scared me straight. Now I’m always 20 minutes early, and I sit in my car and wait.
(Edit to add: that being said, I understand that not everyone with ADD/ADHD is on the same level, or has the same issues. Yours might be Time management, where as mine probably is more keeping the house tidy. I’m definitely not trying to explain away!❤️)
But like I said in my main post, *there are valid reasons*, but the ones who make it a personality trait are the ones I can’t handle.
“You know me! 🤪” person walking into a function that started an hour ago, while wearing a shirt that says ‘always late but worth the wait’, ya know?
And I also think there is a huge difference between 10 minutes late versus over an hour.
As well as it’s different when you’re late to work chronically, versus just late dropping off your kids at grandmas house.
But I’m gonna change the subject for a sec, completely ignore it if this is uncomfortable, but, are you on any sort of medication for your ADD that you absolutely love?
I actually have an appointment on 7th of December to talk about getting myself medicated. And I’m walking blind. I have no idea what to ask.
Linden··
Oh I've been yelled at more times than I can count. 😬
When I was first diagnosed I was put on Vyvanse but it made me feel weird. Now I take an extended release Adderall in the mornin and a lower dose instant release in the afternoon. It took a few months tryin to find the right one and dosage but helped a lot. I STILL can't be on time, but it's MUCH worse on the days I don't take my meds. 😬