Question. If a female starts talking to another man behind her partners back so she can build up enough courage and…
Question. If a female starts talking to another man behind her partners back so she can build up enough courage and strength to leave is that cheating? If she is in a relationship where she feels like the man is very angry & aggressive or controlling and she fears for her life ?? That's how it was with my ex. And I started talking to the man I'm with now behind his back because I needed to leave. It wasn't a good environment and I felt trapped. Anything else can be talked out.
Ausome Minions Mombie ·
I don’t see it as cheating since all y’all was doing is talking.
Kimberly Snowden··
Мама дочки-младенца
But then I got with him lol but
He would often threaten to kill or hurt me but then say " I'm not being serious " if I wanted to do it I would already "( my ex ) and very impatient about everything
Ausome Minions Mombie ··
Somtimes people gotta do what they gotta do to leave that relationship. Unless, they been their they don’t know the constant fear.
Kimberly Snowden··
Мама дочки-младенца
@ausome.boys.tribe Yeah. You should never have to " fear " your partner or husband but rather feel safe around them.
Mrs.stkrdknmibalz·
I’d say no since the relationship was toxic and you were already done mentally. Manipulative people are hard to talk to as it is.
Kimberly Snowden··
Мама дочки-младенца
Yes and I just had to escape by any means. Didn't wanna wind up on the news one day.
Valerie·
If she wants to leave why is she worried if it’s considered cheating
Valerie··
But I’d say no.
Kimberly Snowden··
Мама дочки-младенца
I was just curious.
Linden·
Na, by the time a woman is actively talking to an outside partner, she left that relationship a LONG time ago. She thought bout it, wanted to, felt isolated and guilty for YEARS before she FINALLY made a move. There was no relationship. 🤷♀️
Kimberly Snowden··
Мама дочки-младенца
True but I didn't start talking to my husband till the last 2 months of my ex and I relationship. Also stopped having sex with him around that time.
🥀⛥̷A̶n̵g̵i̴e̷⛥̴🖤·
Мама троих детей
I say if you are in a relationship with a POS that abuses you and makes threats if you leave, that’s not cheating. It’s heartbreaking women in domestic violence situations try what they can to leave safely and your method was to have a good man to protect you from the one that abuses you so you can safely leave. You were not in a loving relationship with Prince Charming. You shouldn’t and no one should make you feel guilty for talking to someone behind your partners back.
Kimberly Snowden··
Мама дочки-младенца
Thank you. Some ppl say it's still cheating but they don't understand and I was curious to others opinions. Now if we're just having arguments and regular problems and I do that then I could see it as cheating. It was terrible and gave me PTSD.
🥀⛥̷A̶n̵g̵i̴e̷⛥̴🖤··
Мама троих детей
when it comes to abusive situations no one will understand why someone would do what they did. Abuse changes you and makes you into someone you don’t want to be. It’s not like you can say oh walk a mile in my shoes cause you don’t wish for someone else to go through that trauma. I sympathize with people that are going through their trauma ❤️❤️ they will say what they want because they don’t understand the situation, it’s hard not to feel some type of way about it. But you are safe and you have a good man and again the most important part you are out and safe 😊.
Kimberly Snowden··
Мама дочки-младенца
@alejandra_593 Thank you and for your input mam
Jasmine·
Мама троих детей, ждёт четвёртого
In a real relationship, (what you described is just abuse and control, a man who loves a woman doesn’t act like that toward her) but in a relationship with love and actually commitment, I would say yes. In this case no. There is no love where a man can lay his hands. There is no love where disrespect lives.
Kimberly Snowden··
Мама дочки-младенца
Yes.. anything else can be worked out. I don't believe In just running to another man lol
Aries·
I would say yes. Only for the simple fact that if it is that bad I would not be looking into talking to another man
I would be looking to change my my situation for me.
If it was the women being abusive in anyway it would be considered cheating. I would say the person in the situation I need to learn to do better or want better for themselves.
Kimberly Snowden··
Мама дочки-младенца
Well I am married now to the man I left him for lol and I stopped sleeping with him and ended the relationship before I moved on. Cheating or not. Was a dangerous situation for me and scary so owell I suppose. My husband messaged me 1st , so not like I was going out looking & he was just a friend at 1st.
Aries··
no judgements here...I just stating my opinion. I'm sure it was a lot deeper than what can fit on a post. If your happy now I'm happy for you.