It’s been a while and I have no clue if all my old peeps are even here anymore, but hi everyone! I need help with my four-year-old.

She went an entire year being potty trained and having absolutely no accidents, and now she refuses to go to the toilet at all. She wets herself multiple times a day, everyday. It’s been going on for like a month now and I have no idea what to do. Everything in my house smells like urine, including her. It’s purposeful and I cannot get her to stop.

We have tried time-outs, we have tried reward charts for having no accidents, potty watches, taking things away, just ignoring it, we even went back to pull-ups for a short time. Nothing phases her. She doesn’t care. It’s pure laziness, she just doesn’t “feel” like going to the toilet.

No UTI. No constipation, she’s totally fine. She just won’t do it. I have to force her to go to the bathroom and stand there and watch her because if I don’t, she’ll lie about it and wet herself and then pretend like she went to the bathroom.

It poses a real issue because I’m gonna have to go back to work VERY soon. And at this point, no daycare or preschool will even take her if she won’t go to the bathroom. She’s also set to start kindergarten next year but if for whatever reason this doesn’t get under control, they won’t let her in, either.