So i live my STEP GRANDMOTHER right now with my kids. She over here trying to change everything i do. She made them lunch and she talking about they need clothes on to eat. No they don't they just going get them dirty. She says that's how i grew up. Wear clothes at the table on sunday. I grew up as sunday being a chill day. Not to mention she freaking 70 years old. Don't confuse my children leave them be. Nothing wrong with my parenting.
Any advice.
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I would definitely pick my battles, too. It's hard to live with someone, especially when you're set in your ways. Learn what are the important battles to you (like discipline style) and maybe not get worked up about putting clothes on for a Sunday meal.
I'm not saying your feelings don't matter, but I lived with my MIL for 8 months last year and OH LORD did I have to pick my battles so life wasn't miserable, but my important parenting was met. Life will get really miserable if you think every thing she says is a challenge. 70 year olds are very opinionated.
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Well she right.... Put play clothes on then or teach them not to get there clothes dirty while eating. They are old enough.
It dont matter what i put on them she will still have something to say. Clean clothes, pjs. Play clothes. It doesn't matter what i do she always got something to say. I just try and stay quiet.
Move out. It’s her house not your house unfortunately her house her rules. Pick your battles (if you have no where else to go) because you don’t want to end up getting told to leave because you where argumentative. (Not sayin that you where argumentative but older people take stuff differently than you or I would)
@piercedmom3, just start humming while walking...... pop lock...do a lil shake, then drop it lol
I mean it’s her house and her table. Her roof, her rules. Plus your kids are too old to be running around and sitting at a table nude. The longer you wait the harder it’ll be to break that habit.
@piercedmom3, you said she made them lunch. So it doesn’t make sense ya saying it was breakfast.
Definitely true. My son is about to be 12 and doesn't wear anything but boxers in the house. I have to always remind him to put pants (shorts) on if hes walking around the house
I would talk to her but be respectful that she has a roof over your head. Clothes at the table is a small sacrifice tbh.
Not that many people are willing to take one in with children. Especially these times.
Yea i know but she just realize why i don't put clothes on them. They messed them up. When didnt have to. But im trting.
I would definitely pick my battles, too. It's hard to live with someone, especially when you're set in your ways. Learn what are the important battles to you (like discipline style) and maybe not get worked up about putting clothes on for a Sunday meal.
I'm not saying your feelings don't matter, but I lived with my MIL for 8 months last year and OH LORD did I have to pick my battles so life wasn't miserable, but my important parenting was met. Life will get really miserable if you think every thing she says is a challenge. 70 year olds are very opinionated.
@piercedmom3 ugh, that's not good. How long do you have to stay there?
@jenx she trying help me get some things together. But literally forced me to come live her. She could have helped from a distance. I told her no but she never listens. My oldest daughter is autistic and she mad cause she is too loud for her. And its not just me, she doesn't listens to anyone. This is my sister grandmother.
I have lived with ex’s relatives, many years before.
It was for 2mnths and it is tough but you have to also be respectful that they gave you their space.
It”s a frustrating balance but you can do it for as long as you need. I know how hard it is to want your own ways and your own time to do it but it never works out like that when you live under others. I am grateful mine was short-lived. I was not happy and was in the works to find my own space.
I was not with a child then so I can not imagine that part.
That is great advice BTW.
I mean, if you're living with her, and her rule is to wear clothes at the table, you should wear clothes at the table.
But she literally just realized why they don't. The just got he chairs messy. They will get their clothes messy. Literally jist said that. And i do what she says, but she umdermines my authority with my.kids.
@piercedmom3 kids get messy, that's a part of being kids. Praise the Lord for washing machines. Lol
I mean, if you're living with her, and her rule is to wear clothes at the table, you should wear clothes at the table.