@verguinia, thank you. I am hoping to see if we can stick to the remote learning and then see what happened after! 😃

@xryztalroze, you are right. I guess I just feel bad in a way since this year has been very bad for a lot of people, that I’m glad that this pandemic gave me a feeling of freedom. My son and I can relax at home and not have to run and do a million things the school would push us to do like run to all the doctors appointments. That was too much. At one point I kept getting calls daily for weeks from the school nurse and I was getting tired of that. I didn’t have the money to do it anymore. It was too much to cab it back and forth or take the trains. I was actually supposed to bring my son to 3 appointments back in February and thank god I canceled them. 😂 I don’t care if the school got mad but once everything closed down in March I was like yes! They weren’t important appointments. The last thing the school was pushing us to do was for me to bring my son to the behavioral pediatrician to get Ritalin which I didn’t agree too. The behavioral pediatrician was pushing as well because of the school but my sons regular pediatrician said that he doesn’t agree with him being on that medication and that he doesn’t need it. His pediatrician is the best. I only want to bring him if he’s sick but not like the school expects me to do for unnecessary appointments or calling me to pick him up all the time. At one point my son didn’t even want to go to school anymore because he got so used to them sending him home, he told me that school is boring and he wants to be home. It isn’t fair that they were messing that up for him because he got used to that but he is right if they constantly send a kid home then the kid will just want to stay home and not even bother with school so I understand why he felt like that.

@verguinia, oh I didn’t know that thank you for letting me know! 😃I’m gonna looking into that.

I feel so silly because I spoke to the principal earlier this year before the schools closed down, about some of these things that the teachers and nurses told me that he didn’t know about. Not only did he not believe me when I told him but he was like why bring it up now? I explained to him a little bit about the court cases and things that I didn’t have time to bring it up before because I was overwhelmed. It was my lawyer that told me it’s never to late to bring it up and since I still feel traumatized about all of that I felt like I needed to get it off my chest to feel better. The principal made me feel worse and told me that I sound crazy because those teachers are wonderful and they would never treat a parent like that. I told him in front of you they won’t but I know what I went through with them. He laughed and just completely disregard my feelings. He doesn’t know that I have witnesses that have heard the teachers over the phone when they would call me and ask me if I was abusing my kid and some of their other rude comments. I’ve put the phone on speaker before so my bf and one of my cousins heard them before. Also he would change his tune if I told him a lawyer said that I have rights and that how they crossed the line. I bet he would freak out and say hey don’t make problems here. I wouldn’t want to but I feel like that school nurse and teachers should at least give me an apology and know how they treated me was unacceptable. I understand that there are bad parents out there but that still hurts me how they jumped into conclusions just because my son was shy in school. I feel like his kindergarten teachers didn’t try to get to know me. They formed an opinion of me right away and from the start I just felt uncomfortable.

@evildrporkchop., thank you.

All I can say is OMG! *hugs* I’m so sorry they treated you so awful

@catmomplus3chitlins, thanks a lot I really appreciate it! 😃

That was a really crazy year. Things got better in 2019 even though the next school nurse kept bothering me as well but she never made any false accusations like the first nurse did thank god. She just annoyed me to keep bringing my son to the doctor when he didn’t even need to go and didn’t agree with the medications they gave him. To make things a bit easier for me I would just keep telling her of upcoming appointments I had so that way she wouldn’t keep pushing to send him home for any little thing almost everyday or every week. I would tell her his coughing would take a while to get rid of if he had a sinus infection so montelukast would help him and sometimes take a month to kick in. What helped me at some point was I got a list of medications I gave him from cvs. They printed out a list for me for the last 2 years so that way she saw that I wasn’t lying when I said that he had everything under control.

I get bad anxiety sometimes but that year especially was really bad back in 2018z It put me in a spot when I was under crazy amounts of stress just like back when I was 12. It was like if I was back in the past.

That's not ibs thats anxiety girl from all the shit they put u thru, hood job being strong thru it all

@verguinia, the teacher said I was very unorganized and it’s true in a way I can never be organized like her but the thing is most of my life I was unorganized and since having my son, he has helped me to get better with my life. So I wasn’t on the level she was expecting but I wasn’t the worst thing that she made me out to be. My son had a paraprofessional help him last year and this year but I hope that he can have one again when things are better. So far all his paras were very nice with me and understanding. The principal gave me a hard time. There is definitely favoritism and I understand they are not gonna agree with the parents automatically they will side with the teachers but he didn’t want to believe that they gave me a hard time. I’ve complained to him a couple of times about it and I felt like I wasted my time. He did help once against one of the kindergarten teachers but after that it’s like a waste of time complaining to him about anything. I get nervous each time my son will have a new teacher but so far his 3rd grade teacher seems really nice. I met her in June online before he finished his 2nd grade class. 😃 To bad he won’t be in her class in person but for now I think this will work out best at home. I am crossing my fingers that when the remote learning ends that hopefully it won’t be until next year that he has to go back in person.

@verguinia, I felt like the teacher also judged me because I can be socially awkward and shy and I wasn’t this very outgoing person that appeared presentable. I am more to myself. When I feel comfortable around someone then I get more friendly.

My son didn’t like both of his kindergarten teachers either. He would tell me that they would have no patience with him and yell at him. When he went to 1st grade everything was much better. He learned from his 1st grade teachers what he couldn’t learn from kindergarten. His 1st grade teachers were patient with him and helped him learn how to read. That annoying school nurse wasn’t there anymore but the next nurse got on my case a lot about bringing him to the doctor like every week. That’s why I can’t imagine with this pandemic that everything would be ok. Knowing how they are, they would push for him to get tested all the time so In a way it’s good that I’m avoiding that as well. I wouldn’t want to put him through that.

Also if your son has adhd you can get a para its a personal person who cones to the school especially for your son to have individual attention and that person helps alot helping with focus and extersizes and calming stuff.The x and his girlfriend just erase them from your mind ! Dont let them comtrol the good person you are to thier level of missory !

@xryztalroze, thank you. Yeah definitely! I feel bad to say that because I know a lot of people lost their loved ones this year, their jobs, home but for me I feel like it’s a nice break from my son’s school.

@lifewithlynnieandwill88, thank you. It’s embarrassing but sometimes I still cry over all of this stuff and feel depressed when I remember all of that. I felt close to suicidal that year but I was really strong to fight my depression that year because I kept thinking of my son. Cps was really pushing to take him but thank god near the ending of the investigation, the social worker saw that I didn’t do anything wrong. It was basically harassment from the school nurse and both kindergarten teachers that time. On top of that my fathers ex wife is not mentally well. Her and her children are schizophrenic and bipolar so they have made a lot of false accusations against my mother and I. They wasted our time and the courts time.

I read thevwhole post and felt it as if it was my story , i also get looked at this way from people eho dont know who i am. I was a pre k teacher and to tell you the rules a teacher under HiPa is not allowed to tell personal stuff about her students to other parents thats a violation ! Also the staff is always thought to treat everyone equal all the student and parents because we are responsible for your most preculious posetion your child and we are tought to work with the parents as partners not to make you feel like your not doing a good job! We are always supposed to use positive reenforsment that means if she felt like your child needed extra help in any area she should of sudjested a chart to help him focus and if he was practically naked she chould of instead of judging gave you a place to get free clothes or maybe use less button shirts to help him not break buttons ! In the future I would like to change my daughter to home school I already found a great program for less money and I like my kids next to me I like being able to know what they eat 3x a day I like being thier teacher and showing them manners and respect I like being able to soend every day with them personally. I ike the fact that my child isnt getting bullied or comes home sad because the teacher gave everyone a treat but her! Im sorry the teachers and nurses gave you a really hard time you are a great mom your doing a wonderful job , you know whst your kid needs and wants, the doctors are on your side im on your side that school just being rude i know because i went to a school that everyone bullied me tje teachers not kids when i was 11 because i was poor and they was rich people trully are ignorent but you gotta move on and ginf what work and if you need a nanny and homeschool to be happier do that!!!!

So sorry! But I can relate to it being a blessing also. Enjoying the time with my girls and more.

Holy smokes! You've had it rough from everyone! Can't believe they'd be so rude and judgmental!