This is the guy I've been talking to this week. Literally on Saturday it would be a week. And hes…
This is the guy I've been talking to this week. Literally on Saturday it would be a week. And hes already talking like this. We arent even really talking "talking" yet. But he has told me that he doesnt talk to anyone else and honestly I don't either. I just don't want to miss any red flags like I did with my last. Because my daughters dad would easily say something like this with in a first few weeks of talking. (Met him online ironically also. Through a mutual friend)
Mandy·
He sounds insecure but that may not be a bad thing.
Amanda··
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Hes mentioned how he is insecure. I just don't want him to get thr wrong impression. That we ARENT talking talking but just talking as friends at the moment. It's only been a week and I know my last relationship he went way to fast and I ignored every damn red flag. Blinded by love and now I know those were all red flags and I know what it looks like now.
Your Worst Nightmare 😘·
Sounds like a loser no offense 😂 but that’s weird I would just play it cool if a guy chases you cool but don’t chase back and let him wonder because he sounds desperate
Amanda··
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@massgirl that's a good way at putting it. Sometimes the desperate or the way to nice of a guy is te guy who will literally be about you and then ones who are true in what he says
Mandy··
exactly. My ex husband was so full of himself I couldn't help but bring him down to try to humble him...my current husband is THE BIGGEST dork ( he was too nervous to kiss me on the THIRD date lol) but he was the polar opposite of all the guys I had been with so I gave him a chance. Our marriage certainly isn't perfect but it's night and day compared to all my other relationships plus because he's a dork he's extremely successful for his age. Not many 29 year olds have been making six figures since they were 25 but he does.
Amanda··
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wow that's great
.·
Tell him you just wanna be friends and nothing more right now.
For only a week, kinda going fast and if your not feeling that click. Than I’d slow it down or you will land up right back in the same situation ive been there it’s not fun
Amanda··
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I do that's the thing then this happened and its just making me want to slow down a little just because of this conversation
.··
idk, me personally I would walk away. And just move on.
AJ·
Lol oh man he seems confused like if he wants to stop getting to know you but then at the same time he’s like oh maybe I’ll stick around to give you a kiss and hug.
Amanda··
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Never thought about it like that.
mybabybear ·
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This would scare me and put me off. If he knows about your past at least your ex and that you’re scared he shouldnt pressure you in any way especially since it’s been a week. Listen to your gut. I mean I appreciate his honesty but I wouldn’t want to be with someone who has insecurities like this. It might get more serious down the line and it’s draining.
Amanda··
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That's true. He doesnt know about what happened really with with my ex that's something I rather not talk about. But imi think it's a good idea to let him know after reading this comment.
AJ·
@anicole3285, do you like him so far? I hate that he seems like he doesn’t know what he wants like he’s indecisive. Like he wants to get to know you with one foot in but the other foot is out. 🤦🏻♀️ I hate when guys are like that. I had to deal with this kind of behavior a lot before. One time I wasted 2 months on a guy like that. At first he seemed really interested and then he complained that I was too strong on him saying I made the first move when he was the one who kissed me first. I felt really offended by that and repulsed by his behavior that I backed off completely. He complained after about how come I don’t text back or call back. They play games. 😂 I was so mad when that happened. It’s up to you if you want to go through with this but just be prepared Incase he flakes. I wasted my 20’s on people like that. When I got fed up with dating and the mind games that some guys were playing, I stayed alone and didn’t date sometimes for a year or more.
Amanda··
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I know exactly what you mean. So did I. Got to a point where I was the one doing that and no strings and every thing till I met my ex (daughters dad) now I don't even know how to act lol. Been with him a little over 4 years. The first 2 days we talked above it didbt seem forced at all. Now it seems like something switched. Not sure what it is exactly unless it's his insecurities but I'm also not rushing into or even feeling mad or sad about it. It's been a week. Not long enough to feel anything of that nature lol
AJ·
@anicole3285, I really do hope that you will find someone who is worth it! I hate when guys don’t know what they want and say they are interested but then could walk away easily. So far I’ve been with my bf for 3 years. I didn’t ever think that I would have a good relationship. All I had were guys playing mind games with me when I was trying to get to know them. My previous relationships, I would get cheated on. It never went anywhere or was ever serious. The longest relationship I ever had before my bf was for a year other wise it was stupid things that only lasted a week, a month and maybe a few months if I was lucky. Sometimes I just stayed single for a few years. It was a lot of headaches and a few times heart aches lol. If things end with my bf one day, I would stay single for a long time. Not only because I would have to heal from the heartbreak and slowly trying to move on, I wouldn’t want to feel like I’m wasting time with someone. It is hard to find a decent person.
Amanda··
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Definitely hard to find a decent one. And I appreciate that I'm glad you found one worth it. Thinking this guy I'm talking to you isnt. Hes on the same shit as everyone else it seems. Ag least I didnt invest any hard feelings and I'm more cautious now my last relationship I can thank for that