If she’s not helping you raise them, she should have no bearing on the decision. My mil is constantly saying we should have more kids but 1) it wouldn’t be smart financially and 2) I get absolutely no help from anyone. My family lives in a different state. When my daughter was born, I came home from the hospital after 24 hrs. My husband had started a new job so he had to return to work but I was completely alone with a 2 yr old. No one helped me and since then I don’t ask for help. His family promised they’d be there to help and ultimately I was alone so I don’t even bother listening to anything they say anymore.

@newmama19, wow you’re so young! I think the minimum age is 25 but maybe it depends on the doctor.

@2sweetie yes it does depend on the dr cuz my dr told i need to at least be 21

@mumma_0fo2 yea i know. And when he got out of prison he got ahold of me and was like " well maybe down the line you can call me dad again" i was like no im not going to do that you basically tried to violate me and i dont want you around my daughter. Now he is telling people i was 16 when it happen and my mom and i are just blowing it out of proportion. But yet he cant remember what age i was when he did it. 🙄🙄🙄

@newmama19 what a sick ass mf 😤

@mumma_0fo2 yea i know

@mumma_0fo2 as a teenager i wanted to die so bad my mom was in abusive relationship and there was nothing i could do to stop we've tried to get help but no one wanted to help so my and my 2 little brothers watched as our mom got beat on a daily basis to where he could have killed her. I hated going to to school cuz i got bullied alot and coming home was worst cux i didnt know what the hell i was coming home too. And when i wanted to kill myself cuz i couldnt take the pain anymore i just couldnt do it i couldnt leave my mom amd my brothers like that. Especially bc i helped my mom raise my brothers so i thought of them as my own so i suffered to be here to protect them.

@newmama19 my mom and dad would fight but then some how I would get in the mix as i got older it was me and my mom fighting verbally and one time when me and my husband were just bf and gf well my dad told my brother dont you dare call anyone or ill snap your sisters neck i literally met death i was scared i was gonna die i looked at my brother and said call justin and till this day i will not forget i wont let them see me or my family or near us my husband seen my neck he was sooo piss

@mumma_0fo2 my moms boyfriend at the time didnt lay a hand on me or my brothers but he emotionally and mentally abuse us. Until i was 17 1/2 he decided to take a video of me taking a shower while i was intoxicated. And now 2 years ago he admitted to my mom that if he hadnt taken the video he actually would have done something to me. He sat there and told other people that i was asking for it and i was seducing him and what not.