Ladies, my partner is going back to work next week which is great but he is going back on nights (6-6) and it is about…
Ladies, my partner is going back to work next week which is great but he is going back on nights (6-6) and it is about an hour on the train traveling. I use to be fine being in the flat on my own but since having the kids my anxiety has gotten really bad and I can feel my anxiety building about it. I really don't know what to do. My partner can't change it and I can't tell him not to go back🙃 any advice?
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Мама сына (1 год)
Just have a set plan for things you will do I.e tv shows, chores, so not your not sat fiddling your thumbs thinking about it. Get him to agree to texting you at set times of hes allowed to. I have awful anxiety and this was one of mine as a couple nights he would be back late I still get anxious but I try and stick to schedules like on this night I watch blah blah tv, phone a friend etc
Kiri Torkoniak··
Honestly it makes me feel so stupid but I worry about everything that could happen xx
Casey·
I’m a huge worrier and my hubby works away. I manage just through a routine took a couple of weeks to establish. I aim to get my chores done before bath time so when kids are in bed I have nothing left to do minus ironing. I follow the organised mum method for cleaning and it’s a life saver.
I like to sit and take half an hour for myself and read a book to just unwind then I go to bed between 8-9. I need the sleep to feel refreshed when he’s working away for three weeks at a time x
Kiri Torkoniak··
I think I panic more about the kids I know im safe and the kids are safe but I have spent my maternity leave for both kids watching crime shows🙈xx
Casey··
i always think the worst as well. But I think having their cameras set the way we do helps. I have spent many nights awake thinking I hear someone in the loft 😂 then with Ailsa being premature I never slept properly I was too anxious and watched her breathing for hours at a time. With two young children you need sleep and I think exhaustion won in the end with me and I realised I need early bed to function best for them. I also have a hammer under my bed
S··
Мама сына (1 год)
I did this too!! But same as above, just know you're secure all the doors, windows, alarms or anything else anything to put your mind at rest x
Kiri Torkoniak·
@casey19 @stacey1991 thank you ladies like I said I know I will be okay, I live in a flat there are camaras by the door downstairs with new locks and I like in the building with two ex army men. Both retired and one very nosey I'm just really paranoid and watch to much TV xx
Kiri Torkoniak··
@stacey1991 they are friendly but don't know if I could fully trust them. The man downstairs already has our numbers as he is the handyman in the flats so I guess if I needed anything I could call him plus I would only have an hour and a half with both kids as my son goes bed at half 7 so I would only have the baby and could go bed then xx
S··
Мама сына (1 год)
at least someone does then, I think the first few nights will be wobbly because you're listening out for all the noises etc but you will settle eventually xx
Kiri Torkoniak··
thank you xx
Niaz2014·
Мама двоих (5 лет, 16 лет)
My husband work from 10 in the morning and still not home yet it is 11.40 at night I get worry about him I ask him to text me or call me to let me know he is OK or coming back he still not text me I am getting worry about he work about 40 mins drive from home hope u can make it work as a family