Yesterday I went out with my boyfriend went to watch a movie, me and him don't live together yet. but point is yesterday when he was dropping me off his like sleep over at my house witch the mom and dad lives. I said no, his response was why is everyone deciding or making choices for you and their going to do the same with the baby, when I know that's not true. what he thinks is that my mom tells me not to sleep over. So he left all mad. and I felt in my heart that he went on and cheated on me and did something else with an other girl.... and it's 10:51 am now and he hasn't texted me at all. and after he dropped me off I texted him saying what I felt and nothing. I don't know if I'm over reacting or what or what should i do. do i wait until he text me?
@itsamemario, you deleted your post before I could hit send but this is my comment: I don’t know if this answers your question but this is my answer. My son is 7 and he knows race and color. Why? Because he himself comes from a family that is multi racial and because he has already experienced racism. I also believe as his mother it’s my job to teach him color and the cold hard truth about society. He knows what’s going on in this world. I’d be hurting him if I allowed him to blindly walk outside without this information. Children of color are being targeted and killed too. It’s not just adults. I let my son know we treat everyone equally and with respect. I let him know that we love everyone for their differences. In every aspect. Color, race, ethnicity, religion, sexual preference we love everyone.
This is my son Walter. Today is his birthday. He would have been five. This picture was taken when he was 16 days old. He was my first child and my only son (I now have 3 girls). He passed away the next day after this picture from congenital heart failure. It was a miracle that he lived passed 12 weeks gestation because of how severe his heart defects were. I miss him so much, I can't believe it's been 5 years. It still hurts so bad. I don't talk about him a lot out loud because I end up bawling, so i thank you for letting me share this with you ladies. You have always been nice and supportive. Happy birthday son, your mom loves you.
My baby boy has me so worried he has such delicate skin. Calling the doctor tomorrow to take him in & get checked out. No matter what lotion I use on his skin he gets like this. Breaks my heart
Who else has financial issues within their relationship?? Or am I just lucky 🙄🙄 Not sure if I'm being just mean or what. But my SO used $160 from me this morning. I gave him my bank card because he needed $60 to get material for work. His boss was going to give it back to him at the end of the day. So instead of $60 he took out $160. Which I was a little pissed. (One of the reasons I just can't let him use my card. I have to go get the money from the atm myself if I'm giving it to him) then, tonight he asked for $20 incase his boss didn't give it to him. So I gave him my card not even thinking because I had kids running around me. I asked if he could pick up a few things that were out of and told him he could use my card if he has too. And I even told him not to get the expensive brands or anything m generic is fine. So he does. But when he does he decides to go Easter shopping for the kids. (Not sure if he used to my card or not) but if he did, I'd be even more pissed. He knows I have bills to pay on top of giving my son's school money that I owe them. He goes to a private school and I haven't paid in 5 months. It's towards the end of school now so I need to pay it. He knows this month I am extremely tight because of the school, im already in debt and my credit score sucks. I have been trying not to get in more debt and actually fix my credit. I'm so frustrated. It's like we have different priorities and different ideas on this. I feel like I'm completely drowning!!
Leslie. C·
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@watz thank you for this I truly appreciate all of this. I took some time to just get myself together and I'm making the call tomorrow to set up his appointment. I'd be lying to you if I said I wasnt scared, I'm taking it day by day.
Again thank you for being that lending hand that I needed when no one else listens. You're and angel!! Thank you for being the guide I needed to help me navigate this journey and for helping his mama.
watz·
My daughter was diagnosed with ASD when she was 3 years old. She's 4 years old now and will be 5 in Aug.
I knew at 13 months that she was autistic and it took me 2 years of fighting doctors to finally get a diagnosis. I was constantly told that "all children develop differently" "you're just a worried 1st time mom" "stop looking for something to be wrong" but I knew what was going on and I felt that nobody would listen. It was incredibly frustrating.
I can understand the feeling of mourning. I personally had a short period of time of mourning too, I mourned for the child that I thought I had. I also felt scared for how my daughter would navigate this world.
But then I realized something... A lot of parents at some point in time mourn their child for not being who they thought they would be/ become.
For example: I had a friend who's parents disowned him and kicked him out of the house when he told his parents he was quitting med school and going into finance. He's parents from a young age always pushed him to be a doctor. He tried hard to make his parents happy and proud of him, but he just didn't want to be a doctor.
Another friend of mine, his parents wept and wept when he came out as gay. So upsetting for a 15 year old . He's mother right then and there made ridiculous sobbing comments about how he was robbing her of ever becoming a grandmother.
I remember thinking how horrible it was that my friend's parents didn't accept them for who they were... and then I realized that I was doing the samething with my daughter. And I was mortified.
Then I realized how lucky I was to have figured all this out while my daughter was still young enough to not remember how I mourned for the loss of an idea, and idea that didn't actually reflect who she ever really was to begin with. (Really dodged a bullet there)
I sat myself down and thought about what I really wanted for my beautiful little girl, and I realized that my wants didn't change. I wanted her to feel loved, and proud of her accomplishments, and to be happy, and to grow up to be the best person she could possibly be. Autism changed nothing about what I truly hoped for her.
So, I set my grief aside, and got to work. I read every book I could get my hands on about Autism and learned what techniques and therapies would work best for nurturing her. (There was a lot of trial and error in the beginning because all autistics just like all neurotypicals are different)
I turned my house into a make shift Occupational Therapy center. Because her vestibular system is wonky and she needs help with gross and fine motor activities.
She had a hard time communicating verbally, so I learned basic sign language and taught her. Slowly she started to sign her needs and eventually started to speak.
I've watched a lot of autistic's YouTube channels where they discuss what it's like for them being autistic.
I joined an amino group so I can ask actual autistics questions to gain insight when my daughter's behavior baffles me.
And the most important thing that I have done was give myself the permission to actually enjoy being the mother to the smartest, funniest, sweetest, most determined, and wonderful little girl. She's my heart and I am blessed.
Autism is scary and an overwhelming thing in the beginning but please remember that being autistic doesn't automatically predestine an unfulfilling, unhappy life.
I promise you that you and your son will find your way.
If you have any questions or just want to chat feel free to message me.