HOW LONG AM I SUPPOSED TO WAIT? since you guys insist on me being patient, how many more times does he not have to show…

You still on this bs 🤨😒 he has 18 years 🤷‍♀️ as far as I know lol you can’t just kick him unless he wants to sign over his rights

Longer than 3 weeks 🤣

Get it together. Go to court. Establish a schedule. A child needs their father physically not just financially.

I've been in your situation. My ex husband was engaged to the woman that he had an affair with by the time I delivered. He was too busy with his new life to care or call about his newborn. Guess what though, it was out of my hands. I sure as hell didn't spend my energy on him. I went by the motto "I love my child more than I hate her father". Eventually he came around and I explained to him that I was never going to keep her from him but he also would not be in and out whenever he pleased. We established a court order for visitation and child support so there were no gray areas. After the ball was in his court. He never came but one when my daughter is old enough to understand I will explain to her that he had the chance he just didn't take it. Don't be angry, I'm sure you're disappointed but THERE'S NOTHING YOU CAN DO ABOUT HIS BEHAVIOR.

And by the way in most states in order to sign over rights there has to be another person involved (step parents or guardian adoptions) you can't just have him sign some papers and get it notarized. It would never hold up in court.

If he doesn’t want to be in her life his lose. One day she’s going to ask about him don’t have your answer be that you kept her away from him. If he doesn’t want a relationship with her let that be on him and you just be the best mom you can be.

Id never personally keep my child from their father. Me and their dad dont get along well alot of the time but I still don't deny him access to his children when he wants to see them. As I told him in the long run it'll hurt his relationship with them. Its his choice when he wants to be in their life. If he chooses not to then thats his decision. They waited 112 LONG days to finally see their father again, and they were not happy with him and he seen that it effected their relationship and wants to do better. Well see if he does. But again I dont deny him access and its totally his decision as to when he sees them.

The way you are going about things, is a little crazy.

With that said, you may not like like him but he is the father of your child and you have to put your child first ALWAYS. I would go to court for child support and set up visitation, that way the ball is in his court and he cant go around saying that you are withholding his child from him, if thats how he chooses to play it out. If he cant keep up with his end with the visitation thats on them and when the time comes and your baby can understand that daddy isnt around, you can talk to her about it. And if its a consistant thing of him not showing for his time with the baby keep a log and revisit the visitation.

That way you know you tried everything in your power for them to establish a relationship.